Kuita Zvepabonde: Kugadzirisa Zvinonyadzisira (Chikamu 1)

Dambudziko rekushandisa zvinonyadzisira uye kuti zviri kukanganisa sei nzanga

naSteve Prokopchak

Ichi ndicho chekutanga chezvinyorwa zviviri pamusoro penyaya yehutano hwepabonde. Ichi chinyorwa chekutanga chinotarisa dambudziko rekushandisa zvinonyadzisira uye kuti zviri kukanganisa sei nzanga. The chinyorwa chechipiri ichapa mhinduro yemubhaibheri pakubata nezvinonyadzisira uye kufamba mukukwana kwepabonde.

Dr. Doug Weiss vanonyora kuti pane kubatana kwakananga pakati pekuita kwemunhu pabonde uye magumo muna Kristu. Anoti, “Mwari akasika iwe neni kuti tiite zvinhu zvinoshamisa paumambo hwake, uye mwero wedu wekuchena pabonde ndiwo ucharatidza kuti tinobatsira sei. Bonde uye magumo akabatana uye ndosaka dhiyabhorosi achishanda nesimba kuti akuteye muchivi chepabonde. "¹

Zvinonyadzisira, maererano netsanangudzo, “zvinhu zvinonyanya kuratidza zvepabonde zvinonyanya kuitirwa chinangwa chokukwezva zvepabonde.” Bhaibheri rinoshandisa izwi rechiGiriki porneia, zvinoreva “ufeve, ufeve, upombwe kana ufeve.” Shoko rokuti “zvinonyadzisira” rinobva pashoko rechiGiriki iri.

Ngationei kubva pakutanga kuti kana tichitarisa zvinonyadzisira tinenge tichiita unzenza uye tichizvidza gadziriro yaMwari yokuva noukama hwepedyo mukati memuchato: murume mumwe nomukadzi mumwe. Chinonyanya kukosha, zvinonyadzisira hazvimbofi zvakatiendesa apo Mwari pakupedzisira anoda kutitora mukufamba kwedu Naye.

Nhamba uye Nyaya Yezvinonyadzisira

Takaona vatungamiriri vakawanda muchechi, mune zvematongerwo enyika, uye muvashandi vachipedzwa simba nounzenza. Dzakanga dziri nyeredzi dziri kubuda—asi hatichanzwi nezvadzo, haticharavi nezvadzo, kana kuti chido chokudzitevedzera.

Ongororo yakaitwa munyika yose pakati pemachechi ari muUnited States yakaratidza kuti muna 2023, 65% yevarume uye 57% yevafundisi vakanetseka nokuona zvinonyadzisira, iye zvino kana kuti kare.² Asi, nhamba inokatyamadza yaive yekuti vakomana vemakore gumi nerimwe kusvika gumi nemanomwe vanoti ndivo vashandisi vepamusoro pa85%. Inenge 57% yevasikana vaduku vakawanikwa vachishandisa zvinonyadzisira sezvakataurwa neChibvumirano cheMaziso.³ Vanoshumawo kuti mumwe mufundisi wepwere mumwe muvashanu uye mumwe wavafundisi vakuru vanomwe muUnited States vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira nguva dzose. Zvinonyadzisira muUnited States zviri pakati pebhizimisi remabhiriyoni mana kusvika kumabhiriyoni gumi nemaviri emadhora—zvichienderana nekwakabva nhamba.

Zvidzidzo zvakare zvinoratidza kuti vanhu vakuru vane mamirioni makumi mana vanogara vachishanyira nzvimbo dzepainternet zvinonyadzisira.⁴ Mari yakawanda inoshandiswa pakuona zvinonyadzisira pagore kupfuura pro baseball, pro basketball, pro nhabvu, uye Super Bowl zvakasanganiswa. Kutengeswa kwezvinonyadzisira painternet kunopfuura kuwanda kwekutengesa kwezvimwe zvinhu zvese zvinotengeswa online. Zviuru gumi nechimwe zvemafirimu evakuru anogadzirwa pagore, inova yakapetwa makumi maviri nhamba yemafirimu emazuva ese enhau anobuda muHollywood. Nyaya yekushandiswa kwezvinonyadzisira iri kutekeshera muchechi, uye kunyange chizvarwa chechidiki chiripo chiri kufumurwa nekubatanidzwa. Idenda.

Pane mapeji anopfuura mamiriyoni 400 ezvinonyadzisira anowanikwa pamawebhusaiti anopfuura mamirioni mana. 70% yezvinonyadzisira inotorwa panguva yebasa - 9:00 am kusvika 5:00 pm.

Taigona kuona kuti chizvarwa chazvino ndicho chizvarwa chiri kushingaira kurwisa kutengeswa kwepabonde kupfuura chero ipi zvayo. Nekudaro, chizvarwa ichi chiri kushandisawo zvinonyadzisira nekukurumidza kupfuura chero chimwe. Chimwe chinhu hachina kuwedzera.

Nhamba dzinoshamisa dzinoenderera mberi*

• 47% yemhuri dzeAmerica dzinoshuma kuti zvinonyadzisira idambudziko mumba mavo.
• Mugore rapfuura, 165 bhiriyoni nzvimbo dzinonyadzisira dzakaonekwa.
• 88% kusvika 97% muzana yevarume veAmerica vanotaura kuti vakamboona zvinonyadzisira pane imwe nguva, pamwe ne83% yevakadzi.
• Zvinonyadzisira zvinowedzera kusavimbika kwevakaroorana ne300%.
• Avhareji yezera apo mwana anotanga kuonekwa kune zvinonyadzisira makore gumi nerimwe; 94% yevana vachaona zvinonyadzisira vane makore gumi nemana.
• 60% yevasikana vari pasi pemakore gumi nemasere vanosangana nezvinonyadzisira.
• 56% yekurambana kweAmerica inosanganisira mumwe munhu ane "kufarira zvakanyanya" mumawebhusaiti ezvinonyadzisira.
• 59% yevafundisi vakati varume vakaroora vanotsvaga rubatsiro rwavo kuti vakunde zvinonyadzisira.
• 33% yevakadzi vane makore makumi maviri nemashanu uye vari pasi pekutsvaga zvinonyadzisira kamwechete pamwedzi.
• 55% yevarume vakaroora uye 25% yevakadzi vakaroora vanoti vanotarisa zvinonyadzisira kamwechete pamwedzi.
• 7% yevafundisi vanoti chechi yavo ine chirongwa chekubatsira vanhu vari kunetseka nekushandisa zvinonyadzisira.
• 17.8 trillion maawa eporn inopedzwa gore rega rega.
• Zvinoenderana neSEMrush Traffic Analysis chishandiso, kubva muna Chivabvu 2021, nzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira dzinogamuchira traffic yakawanda muUS kupfuura Twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Pinterest uye LinkedIn zvakasanganiswa.⁵

Nhoroondo Pfupi yePorn

Muna 1948, Dr. Alfred Kinsey akabudisa bhuku rine gakava asi rakakurumbira pamusoro pevatano. Akanga ari mumwe wevasayendisiti vekutanga kukurukura pachena nezvepabonde, uye mabhuku ake akatengeswa seanopenga.

Muna 1950, 8% yevaAmerica vaiti vakaona zvinonyadzisira. Huwandu uhu hwakakura kusvika pa76% muna 2023.

Muna 1953, Hugh Heffner akabudisa kopi yake yokutanga ye Playboy magazini. Heffner akatora mukana wekuchinja maitiro ezvepabonde uye akatanga kudhinda zvinonyadzisira pamwe chete nezvinyorwa uye zvinyorwa zvakanyorwa nevanyori vanoremekedzwa. Akaratidza zvinonyadzisira sechinhu chisingakuvadzi, chinoremekedzwa, uye chinofadza.

Mumakore ekuma1980, tekinoroji yematepi eVCR yakauya. Zvinonyadzisira zvino zvaigona kuonwa pamba panzvimbo pomudzimba dzemitambo dzine tsvina. Yakava yakawanda kuwanika.

Mumakore ekuma1990, zvinonyadzisira zvakapinda pa internet uye zvaiva nyore kusvika kuburikidza nemakiyi mashoma. Indasitiri yezvinonyadzisira yepamhepo yakaputika. Kubva 1998 kusvika 2007, indasitiri yakakura ne1800%. Pakazosvika 2004, nzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira dzakanga dzava kushanyirwa katatu kupfuura Google, Yahoo! uye MSN Tsvaga yakasanganiswa!

Zvinonyadzisira zvakatangawo kubuda mumafirimu eHollywood neTV kuburikidza nemachaneti anobhadhara-per-view. Pakati pa1998 na2005, nhamba yezviitiko zvepabonde paTV yakawedzera zvakapetwa kaviri. Ikoku kwakanga kusati kuri kwechokwadi bedzi kuTV yavakuru; zvakaitika paTV yevechidiki zvakare. Nhasi, zvinenge zvinhu zvose zvekutengesa zvinotengeswa kuburikidza nekushambadzira kunoshandisa zvepabonde kana mifananidzo yepabonde.

Statistics uye iyo Pornhub Webhusaiti

Nhamba dzinotiudza kuti 35% yezvese zvekurodha painternet zvine chekuita nezvinonyadzisira. Hazvina mhosva kuti uripi paunenge uri paIndaneti, nzvimbo dzepabonde dzinongori kudzvanya kaviri kana katatu chete.

Zvimwe zvinhu zvine chekuita nePornhub saiti:

• Vhidhiyo imwe chete mumatatu ane chisimba mumasikirwo.
• Mavhidhiyo zana epamusoro ane mukurumbira anosvika 65.4 miriyoni maonero.
• 50% yemavhidhiyo ePornhub anoratidza incestuous vhidhiyo yezvinhu.
• Vhidhiyo inonyanya kufarirwa ine maonero emamiriyoni mazana maviri nemakumi matatu nepo vhidhiyo isinganyanyozivikanwa ine mamirioni makumi mana ekuona.

Nekupfuura 60% yenzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira dzakaitirwa muUS, hapana imwe nyika munyika inoburitsa zvimwe zvinonyadzisira.

The Conditioning Process

Conditioning inzira yekudzidzisa mumwe munhu kubvuma mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu kana kuzvibata neimwe nzira. Inzira yekujaira chimwe chinhu, pasina kufunga nezvazvo kana kuzviziva. Conditioning inowanzokura semhedzisiro yekusimbisa semubairo wemhinduro chaiyo. Mamiriro ezvinhu muvana anotanga, somuenzaniso, apo vakomana vanongopiwa pfuti dzokutamba nadzo kana kuti vasikana vanopiwa zvidhori.

Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinotiudza nezvematanho mashanu ekugadzirisa kune zvinonyadzisira.

Danho rekutanga - sumo kana kuratidzwa: Izvi zvinoitika kubva mukushungurudzwa kwepabonde sezvinowanikwa mumagazini, mavhidhiyo, TV, kana kombiyuta. Pane imwe nzira yesumo yekushungurudzwa kwepabonde, kazhinji kubva ku "shamwari." Izvi zvinowanzoitika panguva yehuduku.

Chechipiri nhanho - tsika / kumanikidzirwa kunotungamira kupindwa muropa: Avo vanogara vachizviratidzira ivo pachavo kune zvinonyadzisira vanoona kuti vanofanirwa kuramba vachidzoka kune zvimwe-kune imwe yakakwirira. Izvi zvinotanga chirongwa chemakemikari chatichataura zvakadzama gare gare. (Ona "Maitirwo ehuropi hunochinja" pazasi.)

Nhanho yechitatu - kuwedzera: Iyo yakapfuura yakakwirira haina kukwana uye mushandisi anotarisa mamwe ekunze maitiro ezvepabonde ekukurudzira.

Nhanho yechina - desensitization: Izvo zvisina kujairika zvinova zvakajairika. Hapana chinhu chinokatyamadza kana chakashata. Kunetseka kwekukuvadza vamwe kunorasika mukutsvaga chiitiko chepabonde chinotevera.

Nhanho yechishanu - kuita pane fungidziro yako / fungidziro: Pakupedzisira, tinoita zvatakaona uye zvatinoona zvichifadza. Vakawanda vanotsvaka nzira dzokuzadzisa nadzo zvishuwo kubva kune wavakaroorana naye, pfambi, kana kuti mwana muduku. Kazhinji kazhinji, izvi zvinoguma nokubatwa chibharo. Mune imwe ongororo yevaimbove mahure, 80% vakati vatengi vakavaratidza mifananidzo yezvinonyadzisira kuti varatidze zvavaitarisira kubva muchiitiko chepabonde.

Kuchinja Kunoita Uropi

Ongororo dzinoratidza kuti patinenge tichiita zvepabonde, uropi hunobudisa kemikari inonzi oxytocin, pamwe chete nemamwe makemikari. Oxytocin inogona kunzi glue kukubatana kwevanhu. Semuenzaniso, oxytocin inobudiswawo apo amai vanobata mucheche wavo mutsva paganda ravo kuti vayamwise mwana, zvichiita kuti pave nechisungo chepfungwa.

Patinoona zvinonyadzisira, ma<em>neurotransmitters ane simba akadai se<em>dopamine (kemikari inobudiswa mu“mubayiro wepakati” weuropi) anosunungurwawo. Uropi hwedu hunozotora iyo mifananidzo yezvinonyadzisira uye inogadzira chisungo, ichinyatso kupindira nekubatana kwevanhu uye zvepabonde.

Shoko raMwari rinotikurudzira kuti, “Naizvozvo, gadzirirai pfungwa dzenyu kuti dziite basa; zvidzore; isai tariro yenyu panyasha dzamuchapiwa pakuratidzwa kwaJesu Kristu. Savana vanoteerera, musaenzaniswa nezvishuvo zvakaipa zvamaiva nazvo pamairarama mukusaziva. Asi saiye akakudanai ari mutsvene, ivai vatsvene pane zvose zvamunoita.”1 Peter 1: 13-15).

Dr. Tim Jennings, chiremba wetsinga dzeuropi, anoti chero maitiro ekudzokorora anoumba tunzira muuropi hwedu "zvinobvira" zvichitevedzana.⁶ Saka, varume nevakadzi vanoda Jesu zvechokwadi nemoyo wese vanogona kuve muhusungwa hwepabonde kubva kumuvengi nekuda kwekuona zvinonyadzisira kakawanda. Tinofanirawo kuziva kuti Mwari anoda kuti tibatane newatakaroorana naye pabonde, nepo muvengi achida kuti tive muusungwa kuzvinhu zvinonyadzisira.

Izvi Zvinonyatsoshanda Sei?

Kufanana nechero zvinodhaka kana zvinogona kupindwa muropa, kana dopamine yaburitswa, nzvimbo yemubairo muuropi inobatanidzwa. Semuenzaniso, iyo mubairo system inokuudza kuti unonzwa zvakanaka mushure mekudya kunogutsa kana kurovedza muviri kwakanaka. Inobatanidzazve nokunzwa kwakanaka ikoko nguva imwe neimwe yaunobatanidzirwa muzviitwa izvozvo. (Nenzira, huropi hwedu hwakangogara hwakaoma kutikurudzira kuita zvimwe zvinhu zvinozotichengeta takasimba.)

Nekudaro, huropi hunogona zvakare kudzoreredzwa kumafaro nekunzwa kufara kwakanyanya. Inoita izvi nerubatsiro rweprotein inonzi DeltaFosB. Iyi puroteni inovaka kubatanidza hutsva hwehuropi kuti tigone kurangarira chiitiko uye tozochidzokorora. Kunyanya patinodzokorora chimwe chinhu, ndiko kuwedzera kwechigarire kubatana kwetsinga uye isu tinoshuva chiitiko chakapihwa.

Heino chikamu chinokatyamadza chemuitiro uyu. DeltaFosB inorangarirawo mafomu ekubatanidza kune ruzivo rwakabatana nechiitiko. Aya masangano anonzi "cues." Somuenzaniso, munhu anosvuta angave akadzivirirwa nokunhuhwa kwefodya, kana kuti chidhakwa chingava nemakwara anokonzerwa nokuona bhodhoro. Kune vakapindwa muropa, nyika yese inotanga kunzwa senge muunganidzwa wezvinyorwa uye zvinokonzeresa zvinovatungamira kuti vadzoke mukupindwa muropa kwavo. Kana nzira yave kunzwisiswa, inokonzereswa zviri nyore nemaitiro anoratidza zuva nezuva.

Izvi zvinogadzira shura, kunyanya kumutendi ane chidhakwa. Mushandisi wezvinonyadzisira, zvinodhaka, kana doro anoda uye anozvishuva zvakanyanya, nguva yese achizvifarira zvishoma uye zvishoma. Kushandisa zvinonyadzisira hunhu huri kuramba huchiwedzera nekuti vanohushandisa vanotanga kushivirira. Kana izvozvo zvangoitika, zvinonyadzisira zvakawandisa zvinodikanwa kana zvakanyanya kuomarara zvinonyadzisira zvinoteedzerwa kune imwechete nhanho yekunakidzwa kunoguma. Nehurombo, vanonyadzisira vari ipapo, vakagadzirira uye vakamirira nezvinhu zviri kuwedzera.

Kazhinji kuwana zvinonyadzisira "kwakasununguka," kutozosvikira ichi chishuvo chakawedzerwa chekuwedzera chinogona kutungamirira munhu kushandisa mari pane zvinonyadzisira. Izvi zvinogadzira nyaya dzemari dzemunhu dzinongoomesa mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Sekondi yega yega yezuva rega rega, $3,075 inoshandiswa pane zvinonyadzisira. Nechokwadi chaicho pachiitiko, inofungidzirwa kuti VR ichava bhizinesi rebhiriyoni-dollar mugore ra 2025. VR inonyadzisira ichawedzera mari yeporn site zvisingaenzaniswi.

Kuwedzera Kwekushandisa Zvinonyadzisira

Kukwira kunoitika nekuti tinozviudza kuti tiri kungovaraidzwa nechimwe chinhu chisingakuvadzi. Pashure pezvose, Mwari akasika varume nevakadzi uye zvepabonde. Asi panguva iyi, pfungwa dzedu dziri mubishi kuvaka hukama pakati pemanzwiro ekumutswa uye chero chiri kuitika pachiratidziro. Iyo yakawanda inonyadzisira inoshandiswa uye inove yakajairika, iyo yakanyanya kunyanyisa mafomu ayo anodiwa kuti amutswa.

Mune imwe ongororo yakaitwa pavarume vechidiki 1,500 56, 53% vakati kuda kwavo zvinonyadzisira kwakanga kwava “kunyanyisa kana kutsauka.” Pakupedzisira, zvinonyadzisira zvinogonawo kuchinja mafungiro anotsigira chisimba kune vakadzi uye hutsinye hwepabonde. Pasinei nokuti zvinonyadzisira hazviitike uye zvinorumbidza chisimba uye zvepabonde, 39% yevakomana uye XNUMX% yevasikana vanotenda kuti zvinonyadzisira ndezvechokwadi mukuratidzwa kwepabonde.⁷ Izvi zvinoratidza kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinonyengera sei uye kuti zvinogona kuchinja sei pfungwa dzedu dzemazuva ose.

Mune vakaroorana vakaroorana, zvinonaka zvine chokuita nehutano hwepabonde zvinoshanduka zvakanyanya zvokuti mumwe munhu akapindwa muropa nezvinonyadzisira kazhinji haakwanisi kupindura zvepabonde kune avo vakaroorana navo chaivo. Nguva zhinji, izvi zvinotungamira kune rwendo kuenda kuna chiremba kunorapwa ED (erectile dysfunction). Makore makumi matatu apfuura, kushandiswa kweED kwaiwanzokonzerwa nokuchembera kwemurume kana kushandisa mishonga. Zvakanga zvisingazivikanwi pakati pevarume vari pasi pemakore makumi matatu nemashanu. Nhasi, chisingaperi ED iri kubata varume vari kuyaruka uye makumi maviri. Kuwedzera uku kwakabatana zvakananga neinternet porn kushandiswa.

Zvinonyadzisira zvine simba rakasimba rokuumba nzira dzinogara kwenguva refu muuropi. Hapana chimwe chiitiko chingakwikwidzana nacho, kwete kunyange bonde chairo nemudiwa weupenyu chaihwo. Zvinonyadzisira zvinogona kukurira kugona kwehuropi kuita bonde chairo! Fungidzira vanhu vaya vagere pamberi pekombiyuta nenguva dza3:00 mangwanani vachiona zvinonyadzisira. Kwete kunyange kurara kunogona kukwikwidzana neiyi nzira yehuropi yekunakidzwa, kubvumidzwa kwenzvimbo yemubairo, dopamine uye chishuwo chezvimwe. Senzira inoshandiswa zvakanaka musango, nzira yezvinonyadzisira inowedzera uye inoshandiswa zvakanyanya kusvikira munhu atanga kufunga, "Izvi zvinonzwa zvakanaka, ngatizviite zvakare uye zvakare."

Vechidiki uye Zvinonyadzisira

Unogona kufungidzira kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinopedzisira zvaita sei, kunyanya muuropi hwevadiki sedzevachiri kuyaruka. Izvi zvinodaro nekuti nzvimbo yemubairo yepwere ine simba rakapetwa kaviri kana kana kupfuura remukuru. Zvinonyadzisira "zviroto zvinozadzika" zvezvinoonekwa uye zvinonzwika uye zvinyadzi. Haisi nguva refu kusvika pfungwa dzechidiki dzava kupindwa muropa.

Fungidzira mamiriro ezvinhu umo vechidiki vanowana dzidzo yavo yepabonde kubva kunzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira paInternet. Vatsvakurudzi vanoona kuti vanhu vakaona nhamba yakawanda yezvinonyadzisira vanowanzotanga kuita zvepabonde nokukurumidza, kuita zvepabonde nevadiwa vakawanda, uye kuita zvepabonde zvine ngozi. Nzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira hadziuye nenyevero yehutano husina kunaka hunobva mukushandiswa kwadzo. Izvozvo zvingafanana nokuhaya mutengesi wefodya kuti adzidzise kirasi youtano nezvemiitiro ine utano yokusvuta. Ndinogona kungofungidzira kuti hapana aizonzwa nezvehuwandu hwegomarara kana kuti kuputa kunopfupisa sei hupenyu hwemunhu.

Zvinonyadzisira Zvinokanganisa Mafungiro Edu pamusoro peBonde

Zvinongokuvadza semifananidzo yakajeka muzvinonyadzisira zvinhu zvazvisingaratidzi. Zvinonyadzisira hazviratidzi zvinhu zvese zvebonde zvine hutano sekutaura nekubatana kuburikidza nekukurukurirana, hukama hwepfungwa nekumbundirana, rudo, kubata zvine musoro, uye kushandirana nekunakidzwa kwezvimwe.

Haumbofi wakawana yambiro pamusoro pemigumisiro yebonde risina kudzivirirwa paunenge uchiona zvinonyadzisira. Semuenzaniso, hapana imwe yemasaiti inotaura nezve mukana wezvirwere zvepabonde, pamuviri, gomarara remuchibereko, mavanga, kana utachiona. Mukuona zvinonyadzisira, pasinei nokuti mumwe munhu ari kubatwa sei, anoitwa kuti aratidzike seakanaka, anodiwa, uye haatombokuvadzi. Kunyange zvazvo vakadzi vari kurohwa, kurohwa, kupopota, kana kuti kukuvadzwa nedzimwe nzira, muuyo wacho anenge nguva dzose akafanana: nyajambwa anopindura nomufaro kana kuti haapinduri zvachose.

Dr. Gary Brooks, mumwe purofesa wepfungwa anodzidza nezvezvinonyadzisira, akati, “Vakomana vanopinzwa muropa ne[zvinonyadzisira] vanopindwa muropa nenzira inobvira yokugara navo kwoupenyu hwavo hwose.”⁸ Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, purofesa wezvekuvhiya paHarvard Medical School uye mutungamiriri weMen's Health Boston anoti, "Varume vakawanda vanokura iye zvino vachiona zvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti vanodzidza zvepabonde uye kuti vangakurudzirwa sei ... nenzira isingatevedzerwi nepabonde chaiyo."⁹

Zvinonyadzisira Zviri Kuuraya Michato: Heino Sei

Wakambomuka mangwanani ndokufunga kuti, “Ndinoshamisika kuti nhasi ndingaparadza kana kukanganisa imba yangu sei? Ndinoshamisika kuti ndoita sei kuti mumwe wangu ave nekusachengeteka? Zvichida kwete, asi ndizvo chaizvo zvinoitwa nezvinonyadzisira paukama hwako newawakaroorana naye. Kuona zvinonyadzisira kunoita kuti vasavimba nevakaroorana. Kunowedzera unzenza uye kunobvisa pfungwa dzomunhu pawanano nemhuri. Kupfuurirazve, inovhura musuwo wekutsvaga kana kusangana nemudiwa mutsva wepabonde uchipedza nguva painternet.

Vakadzi vazhinji havaoni basa rinogamuchirika rezvinonyadzisira mukati memuchato wavo wakazvipira. Zvichitevera ongororo yemakore 30 pamusoro pemigumisiro yezvinonyadzisira, vatsvakurudzi Jennings Bryant naDolf Zillman vepaYunivhesiti yeAlabama vakawana kuti “kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kunoita kuti vanhu vakawanda vasagutsikana nezvitarisiko zvewavakaroorana naye, zvavanoita panyaya dzepabonde, kuda kuziva nezvebonde uye rudo. Nekufamba kwenguva, vashandisi vazhinji vanokura zvakanyanya kusava nehanya nevakadzi kazhinji, kashoma kukoshesa kuroora mumwechete uye kuroora uye kunowedzera kukudziridza maonero akamonyaniswa nezvepabonde. Vanowanikwawo sevasina hukama hwepedyo nevavanoda uye vasingagutsikane nehupenyu hwavo hwerudo. Pakupedzisira, vakawanda vanopedzisira vabiridzira vadiwa vavo.”¹⁰

Takatoona kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinodzoreredza sei huropi. Imwe nyaya inokuvadza muwanano ndeyokuti kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kunoita kuti usagutsikane uye usafarira mumwe wako. Vashandisi vanova vasingateereri zvakanyanya muhupenyu chaihwo hwekusangana pabonde. Funga nezvazvo. Varume nevakadzi mune zvinonyadzisira vanotaridzika zvinoshamisa, vadiki, hupenyu hwavo hwese. Mushure mezvose, ivo vanowedzerwa kuvhiyiwa uye airbrushed kusvika pakukwana. Mumwe munyori akanyora kuti, “Nhasi, vakadzi vakashama chaivo vangori zvinonyadzisira.

Chii Chinoitika MuMweya Wenzvimbo Nekushandisa Zvinonyadzisira?

Kuona zvinonyadzisira kunovhura musuwo wemweya yedu nemweya kudzvinyiriro yemweya, kuvhiringidzika, kushaya tariro, kukuvara, kutonga, uye kutonga kwezvakaipa. Vakadzi vanonzwa vanyengedzwa, vachirambwa, vachinyadziswa, vasingadiwi, vakaraswa, vakasurukirwa, vasina maturo, vanoshatirwa, uye vakazadzwa nenyadzi nevarume vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira. Vari kunyengedzwa, chokwadi. Vakadzi vanonzwa sokuti havagoni kukwikwidzana nemifananidzo iri kuonekwa nevarume vavo. Zvinonyadzisira zvinopa fungidziro yokuti mukadzi angaita chinhu chipi nechipi kuti afadze murume, asi munyika chaiyo mafungire akadaro anongova fungidziro. Izvi zvinounza kusachengeteka kwaari uye zvinogona kuparadza kuzviremekedza kwake. Iye achabvunza kukwezva kwake uye kukwana kwake semudiwa. Anogona pakupedzisira kufunga uye kutenda kuti zvinonyadzisira zvakakosha kumurume wake kupfuura iye kwaari, izvo zvingava zvechokwadi. Ndiko kunyengera kwekupedzisira kwepabonde.

Varume, kunyanguvezvo, vanowanzoona zvinonyadzisira sefungidziro isina mhaka isingakuvadzi, chigadzikiso chokusurukirwa, kana kuti chigadzikiso chokuva nomukwanyina wevatano asingaiti zvaanoda. Varume vanokurumidza kururamisa uye kururamisa maitiro avo, vachidana kuti "maitiro akajairika" emurume anotarisisa. Vanobatana nevakadzi mune zvinonyadzisira avo "vanowanikwa nguva dzose," uye vanobatwa nechishuvo chekuramba vachimutswa. Vakadzi vanoratidzwa muzvinonyadzisira vadiki, vanoyevedza, uye vanoda kufadza. Haambofinhwa kana kusvotwa uye haambove nezuva rakaipa. Angazvienzanisa sei nomudzimai naamai vakaswera vachiita mutsimba nemwana mudiki, vachishanda basa rakaoma kana kuti vari kungotarisana nevabereki vakwegura vari kumupedza simba rose?

Kana vanhu vakaita kuti huropi hwavo husimudzwe neidzi shanduro dzakanyanyisa dzebonde, vane matambudziko chaiwo kana yasvika nguva yekunyatsopinda pakati pemashiti. Chaizvoizvo, zvinonyadzisira ndezvekuita zvepabonde chaiko sezvo Spam iri steak-yakachipa, kuwedzeredza kutevedzera. Zvinonyadzisira hazvisi kungoderedza kugona kwevarume kuita bonde rakanaka, zviri kuvatorera kugona kuita bonde zvachose.

Zvinonyadzisira zvinouraya rudo chairwo nekuti ndedzemanyepo. Peji rega rega, saiti yese, bhaisikopo rega rega nderemanyepo. Haisi yechokwadi! Vashandisi vezvinonyadzisira vanova vasina chokwadi nezverudo uye vanova vasina kuzvipira kune vavanofambidzana navo, asi zvese zvakavakirwa pamanyepo. Idzi dzinogona kunge dziri nhema dzakadai sekuti, “Kungoona vanhu vachiita bonde uye kuita zvepabonde ndokwakasikwa,” “Zvinonyadzisira zvinongotsausa zvisina mhosva; hazvikuvadzi,” kana kuti “Zvinonyadzisira zvinopa nzira yakachengeteka yokudzidza nezvebonde.” Sokunge mukunyepedzera, vamwe vangapokana kuti zvinonyadzisira hazvirwadze munhu. Inhema dzakadini!

Mweya usiri-pachena ronda rekuona zvinonyadzisira nderokuti hukama hwakawanda hunokanganiswa nekuchinja kunoitika muuropi. Inogona kukanganisa nzira iyo vatengi vanoona nayo vanhu, shamwari dzavo, nhengo dzemhuri, vashandi pamwe navo, mwanasikana wemuvakidzani kana mwanakomana, mwanasikana wako chaiye, uye kunyange vasingazivi mumugwagwa. Sei? Zvinonyadzisira zvinoudza vatengi kuti vanhu zvinhu zvine chinangwa chega chekupa kugutsikana kwepabonde. Izvozvo zvine chokuita zvakananga nokuita kuti upenyu hwomunhu huve mubatanidzwa wenhengo dzomuviri, achirasa kukosha kwake chaiko noukoshi.

Zvinosuruvarisa, hazvigumiri ipapo. Mushandisi wezvinonyadzisira anova munhu anozvivenga, zvakare. Iko kuderera kwekupindwa muropa nemifananidzo yenhema, rudo rwenhema, uye hupenyu hwenhema.

Zvakavanzika Zvevanoita Zvinonyadzisira

Munyaya dzezvinonyadzisira dzinotongwa, kurohwa, kushungurudzwa pabonde, kunyadziswa-uye zvese zvinoenderana nemvumo uye chibvumirano. Asi kune vakawanda, uhu uranda hwemazuva ano kana kuti kutengeswa kwevanhu. Kutengeswa kwevanhu kutenga nekutengesa vanhu, kana kufambisa vanhu kuti vagone kushandiswa kuita purofiti. Nhamba inofungidzirwa yevaranda pasi rose inosvika mamiriyoni 21 kusvika ku32. Inenge 22% yeavo vanotengeswa nekuda kwekuita zvepabonde. Zvinotonyanya kutyisa kuti avhareji yezera revana vaduku vari kutengeswa—uye vakatorwa mafirimu—makore 12.8.¹¹

Kazhinji zvinonyadzisira uye kutengesa zvepabonde chinhu chimwe chete. Zvinonzi inoda kusvika hafu yevanobatwa nekutengesa zvepabonde vanoti vakashandiswa senyaya mumafirimu ezvinonyadzisira. Vanhu ava vanobva kutenderera pasirese vachikwezvwa nezvipo zvenhema sekuti, “Huya kuAmerica kuti utange basa rako rekuenzanisa. Huya utange hupenyu hutsva."

Izvi Zvinorevei Kwatiri?

Nekuona zvinonyadzisira, uri kutsigira indasitiri yezvinonyadzisira uye kuibatsira kuti ikure. Uri kuparira kubatwa zvisina kufanira kwevatano kwevakabatwa munyika ino ine rima. Uri kuwedzera kuchivi chokutengesa vanhu. Uri kuti “hungu” kubhizimisi remabhiriyoni emadhora rinodyisa nokubira varume, vakadzi, uye vana vasina mhaka uye rinogona kutotungamirira kukupambwa kwavo kana kuti rufu. Uri kudzidza kuona uye kubata vakadzi nevarume sezvinhu zvokurara nazvo. Uri kuparadza avo vakavharirwa muindastiri iyi (iyo nhasi inosanganisira vasikana vechidiki vakawanda kupfuura kare), muchato wako, mhuri yako pachako, uye iwe pachako. Unototsigira kubiwa kwevana. National Center for Missing and Exploited Children yakanyora mishumo yemamiriyoni makumi matanhatu nemapfumbamwe emifananidzo yezvinhu zvekushungurudza vana pabonde (aka mwana porn) muna 69.¹² Pane zvakajeka kubatana pakati pekushayikwa kwevana uye zvinonyadzisira.

Hongu, iwe uzviregerere uye uzvigadzirise. Unozviudza kuti hazvina kuipa. Kungotarisa nekukurumidza; chido chomuzvarirwo . Vamwe venyu vanotochinja dzidziso yenyu kuti muzviudze, kana kuedza kuzvisimbisa, kuti zvinonyadzisira zvakanakira Mwari.

Asi Handina Kupindwa Muropa!

Unogona kunge uine mameseji ari kuenda kuuropi hwako izvozvi achiti, "Zvese zvingava chokwadi, asi munhu iyeye handisi ini."

Unoziva sei kana wakapindwa muropa? Heano mamwe mazano.¹³

• Unonzwa uchidzorwa, usingachadzoreki, uye usina simba rokudzivisa muedzo wokuona zvinonyadzisira.
• Iwe une uye uri kusangana nekuwedzera kwehuwandu uye kushandiswa kwezvinonyadzisira.
• Unonyepa nezvekushandisa kwako.
• Iwe wakabatikana nepfungwa dzepabonde uye fungidziro.
• Iwe unozviudza kuti mamiriro ako haana kushata sevamwe kana kuedza kuderedza kushandiswa kwako.
• Hauna kubudirira kumisa kushandiswa kunoramba kuripo.
• Unorasikirwa nekufarira zvepabonde uye unoona zvinonyadzisira zvakanyanya kufadza.
• Unorasa kukwezvwa nemudiwa wako chaiye.
• Iwe unotanga kuronga uye kuda muhupenyu hwako hwepabonde izvo zvaunoona pane zvinonyadzisira saiti.

Mhinduro Dzinowanikwa

Sezvo izvi zvose zvingaita sezvinoodza mwoyo uye zvinosemesa, tinoziva kuti zvinobvira kurega kupindwa muropa nezvinonyadzisira. Tinofanira kupa tariro uye kuudza vanhu kuti kune nzira yekuchinja uye rusununguko. Hakuna chivi icho Jesu asina kufira. Mweya yedu nepfungwa dzedu dzinoda kucheneswa neropa rakadeurwa neMuponesi wedu pamuchinjikwa. Rusununguko ruripo.

Tichatsanangura zvakawanda nezvenzira inoenda kurusununguko munyaya inotevera.

Endnotes

1. https://www.covenanteyes.com/2018/01/02/your-sexual-purity-isnt-just-about-you/
2. https://www.barna.com/the-porn-phenomenon/
3. https://www.covenanteyes.com/2015/04/10/10-shocking-stats-about-teens-and-pornography/
4. https://blog.gitnux.com/porn-addiction-statistics/
5. https://www.semrush.com/analytics/traffic/
6. https://churchgrowthmagazine.com/the-number-one-reason-for-porn
7. https://www.covenanteyes.com/
8. https://fightthenewdrug.org/this-years-most-popular-genre-of-porn-is-pretty-messed-up/
9. https://fightthenewdrug.org/porn-is-taking-away-mens-ability-to-have-actual-sex/
10. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/229739107_Pornography’s_Impact_on_Sexual_Satisfaction1#/
11. https://www.ctdatacollaborative.org/story/age-victims-children-and-adults
12. https://www.missingkids.org/ourwork/ncmecdata
13. https://www.foryourmarriage.org/?s=pornography

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*Makosi anotevera akashandiswa kudhata nenhamba muchinyorwa chose.

• Iyo Porn Phenomenon naBarna
• Kurwisa Mishonga Mitsva
• Covenant Eyes
• S.E.M. Rush

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