Ukulalana Ngokupheleleyo: Ukujongana Noonografi (Icandelo 1)

Ucelomngeni lokusetyenziswa kwephonografi kunye nendlela oluchaphazela ngayo uluntu

NguSteve Prokopchak

Eli linqaku lokuqala kumanqaku amabini athetha ngokugqibeleleyo ngokwesondo. Eli nqaku lokuqala lithetha ngocelomngeni lokusetyenziswa kwephonografi nendlela oluchaphazela ngayo uluntu. I Inqaku lesibini iya kuzisa isisombululo sebhayibhile sokujongana nephonografi kunye nokuhamba ngokugqibeleleyo ngokwesondo.

UGqr. Doug Weiss ubhala ukuba kukho unxibelelwano oluthe ngqo phakathi kokuziphatha komntu ngokwesondo kunye nekamva kuKristu. Uthi, “UThixo wenze mna nawe ukuba senze izinto ezimangalisayo kubukumkani bakhe, yaye umgangatho wethu wokucoceka ngokwesini uya kugqiba indlela esiluncedo ngayo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nekamva kunxibelelene kwaye kungenxa yoko le nto umtyholi esebenza nzima ukukurhintyela kwisono sesondo. "¹

Iphonografi, ngokwengcaciso, “yimifanekiso evuselela inkanuko yesini ubukhulu becala ngenjongo yokuvusa inkanuko yesini.” IBhayibhile isebenzisa igama lesiGrike porneia, elithetha “uhenyuzo, uhenyuzo, ukukrexeza okanye uhenyuzo.” Igama elithi “iphonografi” lithatyathwe kweli gama lesiGrike.

Masiqinisekise kwasekuqaleni ukuba xa sijonga iphonografi sibandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okubi ngokwesini kwaye sihlambela isicwangciso sikaThixo sobudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi komtshato: indoda enye nomfazi omnye. Okubaluleke kakhulu, iphonografi ayinakuze isise apho uThixo ekugqibeleni anqwenela ukusithatha ekuhambeni kwethu kunye naye.

Amanani kunye nomba wephonografi

Siye sabukela iinkokeli ezininzi zecawa, kwezobupolitika, nabasebenzi bethatyathelw’ indawo ngokuziphatha okubi. Babeziinkwenkwezi eziphumayo—kodwa asisaziva ngazo, asisafundi ngazo, yaye asisafuni ukubaxelisa.

Uhlolisiso olwenziwa elizweni lonke kwiicawa zaseUnited States lubonise ukuba ngo-2023, amadoda angama-65 ekhulwini nabefundisi abangama-57 ekhulwini baye banengxaki yokubukela iphonografi, ngoku okanye kwixesha elidluleyo.² Kodwa, ezona nkcukacha-manani zothusayo yayikukuba amakhwenkwe aneminyaka elishumi elinanye ukuya kwelishumi elinesixhenxe ubudala achaze ukuba angabasebenzisi abakhulu kuma-85%. Phantse i-57% yamantombazana amancinci afunyenwe ukuba asebenzise imifanekiso engamanyala njengoko kuchazwe nguMnqophiso wamehlo.³ Bakwanikela ingxelo yokuba umfundisi omnye kwabahlanu nomfundisi omnye kwabasixhenxe eUnited States basebenzisa amanyala rhoqo. Iphonografi eUnited States iphakathi kweshishini le-4-bhiliyoni ukuya kwi-12-bhiliyoni yeedola-kuxhomekeke kumthombo wamanani.

Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abantu abadala abazizigidi ezingamashumi amane bahlala betyelela iindawo ze-intanethi zephonografi.⁴ Imali eninzi ichithwa kwiphonografi ngonyaka kune-baseball yepro, i-basketball, i-pro football, kunye ne-Super Bowl zidityanisiwe. Ukuthengiswa kwezinto ezingamanyala kwi-intanethi kudlula ukuthengiswa okuqokelelweyo kwazo zonke ezinye iimveliso ezithengiswa kwi-Intanethi. Ishumi elinanye lamawaka emiboniso bhanyabhanya yabantu abadala iveliswa ngonyaka, eliliphinda-phinda amashumi amabini inani lemiboniso bhanyabhanya eqhelekileyo yeendaba ephuma eHollywood. Umbandela wokusetyenziswa kwephonografi ugquba icawa, nesizukulwana sangoku sibhencwa yaye sibandakanyekile. Ngubhubhani.

Kukho ngaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-400 amaphepha ezinto ezingamanyala ezifumaneka kwiiwebhusayithi ezingaphezu kwezigidi ezine. I-70% ye-porn ikhutshelwa ngexesha lomsebenzi - 9:00 am ukuya ku-5: 00 pm

Sinokuqaphela ukuba isizukulwana sangoku sisizukulwana esilwa ngokushishina ngokurhweba ngesondo ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye. Nangona kunjalo, esi sizukulwana sisebenzisa i-porn ngokukhawuleza kunaso nasiphi na esinye. Akukho nto idibanisayo.

Ubalo olumangalisayo luyaqhubeka*

I-47% yeentsapho zaseMelika zibika ukuba iphonografi yingxaki ekhayeni labo.
Kunyaka ophelileyo, iisayithi ze-porn eziyi-165 yezigidigidi zajongwa.
I-88% ukuya kwi-97% yeepesenti zamadoda aseMelika abika ukuba abukele i-porn ngexesha elithile, kunye ne-83% yabasetyhini.
Iphonografi inyusa izinga lokungathembeki emtshatweni ngama-300%.
Umyinge weminyaka apho umntwana eqala ukuboniswa kwiphonografi yiminyaka elishumi elinanye; I-94% yabantwana baya kubona i-porn kwiminyaka elishumi elinesine.
I-60% yamantombazana angaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala abonakaliswe kwimifanekiso engamanyala.
I-56% yoqhawulo-mtshato yaseMelika ibandakanya iqela elinye elinomdla "ogqithisayo" kwiiwebhusayithi zephonografi.
I-59% yabefundisi bathi amadoda atshatileyo afuna uncedo lwabo ukuze banqobe ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn.
I-33% yabasetyhini abaneminyaka engamashumi amabini anesihlanu kwaye bangaphantsi kokukhangela i-porn ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga.
I-55% yamadoda atshatileyo kunye ne-25% yabasetyhini abatshatileyo bathi babukela i-porn ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga.
I-7% yabefundisi bathi icawa yabo inenkqubo yokunceda abantu abanengxaki yokusebenzisa amanyala.
Iiyure ezili-17.8 zeetriliyoni ze-porn ziyasetyenziswa minyaka le.
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Ngowe-1948, uGqr. Alfred Kinsey wapapasha incwadi ephikisanayo kodwa ethandwayo ethetha ngesini. Wayengomnye wezazinzulu zokuqala ukuxoxa ngokukhululekileyo ngesondo, kwaye iincwadi zakhe zithengiswa njengohlanya.

Ngo-1950, i-8% yabantu baseMerika bathi baye babukela iphonografi. Elo nani likhule laya kutsho kuma-76% ngo-2023.

Ngowe-1953, uHugh Heffner wapapasha umbhalo wakhe wokuqala playboy iphephancwadi. UHeffner wasebenzisa ithuba lokutshintsha i-sex mores kwaye waqala ukuprinta iphonografi kunye namanqaku kunye nezincoko ezibhalwe ngababhali abahlonelwayo. Wabonisa amanyala njengento engenabungozi, ehloniphekileyo neyolisayo.

Kwiminyaka yee-1980, iteknoloji yeeteyiphu zeVCR yeza kunye. Ngoku iphonografi yayinokubukelwa ekhaya kunokuba ibukelwe kwiiholo zemidlalo yeqonga. Kwafikeleleka ngakumbi.

Ngeminyaka yoo-1990, iphonografi yabetha i-intanethi kwaye yayifikeleleka ngokulula ngokusebenzisa izitshixo ezimbalwa. Ishishini le-porn kwi-intanethi liye laqhuma. Ukususela ngo-1998 ukuya ku-2007, ishishini likhule nge-1800%. Ngo-2004, iisayithi ze-porn zazifumana ukutyelelwa ngokuphindwe kathathu kunoGoogle, i-Yahoo! kunye nokukhangela kwe-MSN zidityanisiwe!

Kwakhona imifanekiso engamanyala yaqalisa ukubonakala kwiimuvi zaseHollywood nakumabonwakude kusetyenziswa amajelo ahlawulwayo. Phakathi kuka-1998 kunye no-2005, inani leemiboniso zesondo kwi-TV liphindwe kabini. Oku kwakungeyonyaniso nje kumabonwakude wabantu abadala; kwenzeka nakwiTV yolutsha ngokunjalo. Namhlanje, phantse zonke iimveliso zorhwebo zithengiswa ngeentengiso ezisebenzisa isondo okanye imifanekiso yesondo.

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Izibalo zisixelela ukuba i-35% yazo zonke izinto ezikhutshelweyo ze-intanethi zinxulumene ne-porn. Nokuba uphi na xa ukwi-intanethi, iisayithi zamanyala zicofa nje kabini ukuya kathathu.

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Iipesenti ezingama-50 zeevidiyo ze-Pornhub zibonisa umxholo wevidiyo ozalanayo.
Eyona vidiyo idumileyo ineembono ezizizigidi ezingama-230 ngelixa eyona vidiyo ingaziwayo ineembono ezizizigidi ezingama-40.

Ngaphezulu kwe-60% yeesayithi ze-porn ezibanjwe e-US, akukho lizwe elinye kwihlabathi elivelisa imifanekiso engamanyala.

Inkqubo yoLungiso

I-Conditioning yinkqubo yokuqeqesha umntu ukuba amkele iimeko ezithile okanye aziphathe ngendlela ethile. Yinkqubo yokuqhelana nento, phantse ungacingi ngayo okanye ungayiqondi. I-conditioning ihlala iphuhliswa ngenxa yokomelezwa okufana nomvuzo wempendulo ethile. Imeko ebantwaneni iqala, umzekelo, ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba abafana banikwe imipu ukuba badlale ngayo okanye amantombazana anikwe oonodoli.

Iingcali zengqondo zisixelela ngenkqubo enamanyathelo amahlanu okulungisa iphonografi.

Inyathelo lokuqala - intshayelelo okanye ukuvezwa: Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo njengoko kufumaneka kwiimagazini, iividiyo, iTV, okanye ikhompyutha. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lwentshayelelo yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, rhoqo ukusuka “kumhlobo”. Oku kudla ngokwenzeka ngexesha lobuntwana.

Inyathelo lesibini - umkhwa / ukunyanzeliswa okukhokelela ekubeni likhoboka: Abo bahlala bezichanaba rhoqo kwimifanekiso engamanyala bafumanisa ukuba kufuneka babuyele ngokuqhubekayo-kwenye indawo ephezulu. Oku kuqalisa inkqubo yemichiza esiza kuthetha ngayo nzulu kamva. (Jonga "Indlela ingqondo ehamba ngayo utshintsho" ngezantsi.)

Inyathelo lesithathu - ukuqinisa: Ukuphakama kwangaphambili akwanelanga kwaye umsebenzisi ujonga iindlela ezingaqhelekanga zokuziphatha ngokwesondo ukuze avuselele.

Inyathelo lesine - ukuqaqanjelwa: Into engaqhelekanga iba yinto eqhelekileyo. Akukho nto iyothusa kakhulu okanye igwenxa. Inkxalabo yokwenzakalisa abanye iyalahleka ekulandeleni amava esondo alandelayo.

Inyathelo lesihlanu – ukwenza ngokweentelekelelo/intelekelelo yomntu: Ekugqibeleni, senza oko sikubonileyo noko sikufumeneyo kukholiswa. Abaninzi bakhangela iindlela zokwanelisa iminqweno yeqabane, unongogo, okanye umntwana omncinane. Kaninzi, oku kubangela udlwengulo. Kolunye uphando lwamahenyukazi angaphambili, i-80% yathi abathengi bababonise imifanekiso ye-porn ukuze babonise oko babekulindele kumava esondo.

Indlela Ingqondo Eqhubeka Ngayo Iyatshintsha

Uhlolisiso lubonisa ukuba xa sibandakanyeka kwiintlobano zesini, ingqondo ikhupha umchiza ekuthiwa yioxytocin, kunye neminye imichiza. I-Oxytocin inokubizwa ngokuba yi-glue kubudlelwane bomntu. Umzekelo, i-oxytocin nayo ikhutshwa njengoko umama ebambe usana lwakhe olutsha elulusuni lwakhe ukuze aluncancise umntwana, nto leyo edala umanyano lweemvakalelo.

Xa sibukela imifanekiso engamanyala, ii-neurotransmitters ezinamandla ezifana ne-dopamine (ikhemikhali ekhutshwe "kwiziko lokuvuza" lengqondo) nazo ziyakhululwa. Ingqondo yethu emva koko ithatha loo mifanekiso engamanyala kwaye idale i-bond, ngokwenene iphazamise ukuxhamla komntu kunye nobulili.

ILizwi likaThixo liyasibongoza, “Ke ngoko, lungisani iingqondo zenu kuse emsebenzini; zibambeni; Qhubekani nithembele kubabalo lukaThixo enilinikiweyo ekutyhilekeni kukaYesu Krestu. Njengabantwana abamlulamelayo, musani ukulandela iminqweno ekhohlakeleyo enaninayo ngoku ekungazini. nithi ke, kwanjengokuba ungcwele lowo wanibizayo, yibani ngcwele nani ngokwenu ezintweni zonke.”1 Peter 1: 13-15).

UGqr. Tim Jennings, i-neuropsychologist, uthi naluphi na uhlobo lokuziphatha ngokuphindaphindiweyo ludala imizila engqondweni yethu "evuthayo" ngokulandelelana okuzenzekelayo.⁶ Ngoko ke, amadoda nabafazi abamthanda ngokwenene uYesu ngentliziyo yabo yonke banokuba kubukhoboka besini kutshaba ngenxa yokubukela iphonografi ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwakhona sifanele siphawule ukuba uThixo unqwenela ukuba sinxulumane neqabane lethu lobomi ngokwesini, ngoxa utshaba lunqwenela ukuba sibe ngamakhoboka ezinto ezingcolileyo ngokwesini.

Kusebenza Njani Oku?

Njengalo naliphi na iyeza okanye into enokuba likhoboka, xa kukhutshwa i-dopamine, iziko lomvuzo engqondweni liyabandakanyeka. Umzekelo, inkqubo yokuvuza ikuxelela ukuba uziva ulungile emva kokutya okwanelisayo okanye ukuzilolonga okuhle. Iphinda iqhagamshelane naloo mvakalelo ilungileyo ngalo lonke ixesha ubandakanyeka kuloo misebenzi. (Ngendlela, ubuchopho bethu ngokwemvelo bunobunzima bokusikhuthaza ukuba senze izinto ezithile eziza kusigcina sisempilweni.)

Nangona kunjalo, ingqondo inokuphinda ibuyele kulonwabo ngokufumana ulonwabo olukhulu. Ikwenza oku ngoncedo lweprotheyini ebizwa ngokuba yiDeltaFosB. Le proteni yakha uqhagamshelo olutsha lobuchopho ukuze sikwazi ukukhumbula amava kwaye siwaphinde kamva. Okukhona siphinda into ethile, kokukhona uqhagamshelo lwemithambo-luvo luhlala lusisigxina kwaye sinqwenela ngakumbi amava anikiweyo.

Nantsi inxalenye ekhohlisayo yale nkqubo. I-DeltaFosB ikwakhumbula iindlela zoqhagamshelo kwiinkcukacha ezinxulumene namava. Olu nxulumano lubizwa ngokuba "ziimpawu." Ngokomzekelo, umntu otshayayo usenokuchatshazelwa livumba lomsi wecuba, okanye ikhoboka lotywala lisenokuba neendlela ezibangelwa kukubona ibhotile. Kubantu abakhotyokisiweyo, umhlaba wonke uqalisa ukuziva ngathi yingqokelela yeempawu kunye nezinto ezibangela ukuba babuyele kumlutha wabo. Xa umendo uvuselelwa, uvuswa ngokulula zizikhokelo ezibonakala mihla le.

Oku kudala isigqebelo, ngakumbi kwikholwa elinomlutha. Umsebenzisi wephonografi, iziyobisi, okanye utywala ufuna kwaye uyinqwenela ngakumbi nangakumbi, ngalo lonke ixesha eyithanda kancinci nangaphantsi. Ukusetyenziswa kwephonografi yihambo eyandayo kuba abo bayisebenzisayo baqala ukuhlakulela ukunyamezela. Nje ukuba oko kwenzekile, i-porn eninzi iyadingeka okanye i-porn enzima ngakumbi ilandelwa kwinqanaba elifanayo lolonwabo olunesiphumo. Ngelishwa, abenzi bephonografi balapho, bekulungele kwaye balinde ngezinto ezikhulayo.

Ngokufuthi ukufikelela kwiphonografi “kusimahla,” de lo mnqweno wanda wokufuna okungakumbi unokukhokelela ubani achithe imali kwizinto ezingamanyala. Oku kudala imiba yezemali yobuqu eyenza nzima imeko kuphela. Yonke isekhondi yemihla ngemihla, i-$ 3,075 ichithwa kwi-porn. Ngenyani ebonakalayo kwindawo, kuqikelelwa ukuba i-VR iya kuba yibhiliyoni enye yeshishini ngonyaka we-2025. I-porn ye-VR iya kukhulisa ingeniso yesayithi ye-porn ngokungenakulinganiswa.

Ukunyuka kokusetyenziswa kwephonografi

Ukunyuka kwenzeka kuba sizixelele ukuba sonwatyiswa nje ngento engenabungozi. Ngapha koko, uThixo wadala amadoda nabafazi nesini. Kodwa okwangoku, iingqondo zethu zixakeke ekwakheni unxibelelwano phakathi kweemvakalelo zokuvuselela kunye nantoni na eyenzekayo kwiscreen. Okukhona i-porn isetyenziswa kwaye iqhelekile, iindlela ezigqithisileyo zazo ziyimfuneko ukuba zivuswe.

Kuhlolisiso olwenziwa kubafana abasele bekhulile abali-1,500 56, abangama-53 ekhulwini bathi ukuthanda kwabo iphonografi “kuye kwanda kakhulu okanye kwaphambuka.” Ekugqibeleni, iphonografi inokutshintsha izimo zengqondo ezixhasa ubundlobongela obubhekiselele kwabasetyhini kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. Nangona i-pornography ayinakwenzeka kwaye izukisa ubundlobongela kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini, i-39% yamakhwenkwe kunye ne-XNUMX% yamantombazana akholelwa ukuba i-pornography iyinyani ekuboniseni kwayo ngesondo.⁷ Oku kubonisa indlela iphonografi ekhohlisa ngayo kunye nendlela enokuguqula ngayo imvakalelo yethu yesiqhelo.

Kumaqabane atshatileyo, izinto ezithandwayo ezihambelana namava ezesondo zitshintsha kakhulu kangangokuba umntu onomlutha we-porn uhlala engakwazi ukuphendula ngesondo kumaqabane abo okwenene. Amaxesha amaninzi, oku kukhokelela kuhambo oluya kugqirha unyango lwe-ED (i-erectile dysfunction). Kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu eyadlulayo, ukusetyenziswa kwe-ED kwakusoloko kubangelwa kukwaluphala kwendoda okanye ukusebenzisa amayeza. Yayingavakali kumadoda angaphantsi kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu anesihlanu. Namhlanje, i-ED engapheliyo ichaphazela amadoda akwishumi elivisayo kunye ne-20s. Olu lwando lunxulumene ngokuthe ngqo nokusetyenziswa kwe-porn ye-intanethi.

Iphonografi inamandla amakhulu okwenza iindlela ezihlala ixesha elide engqondweni. Akukho namnye omnye umsebenzi onokukhuphisana nawo, nokuba neentlobano zesini ngokwenene neqabane lokwenene lobomi. I-porn inokongamela amandla endalo engqondo yokuba nesondo sokwenyani! Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wabo bantu bahleli phambi kwekhompyutha ngentsimbi yesi-3:00 kusasa betyhwatyhwe ngamanyala. Akukho nokulala kunokukhuphisana nale ndlela yengqondo yolonwabo, ukuvunywa kweziko lomvuzo, i-dopamine kunye nomnqweno wokungaphezulu. Njengomzila osetyenziswe kakuhle ehlathini, indlela ye-porn iya ibanzi kwaye isetyenziswe ngakumbi de umntu aqale ukucinga, "Oku kuvakala kulungile, masenze ngokuphindaphindiweyo."

Ulutsha kunye ne-Porn

Unokuyithelekelela indlela ekunyanzeleke ngayo ukubukela amanyala, ngakumbi kwiingqondo eziselula njengabo bakwishumi elivisayo. Oku kungenxa yokuba iziko lokuvuza lolutsha linamandla aphindwe kabini ukuya kwane kunelomntu omdala. Iphonografi “liphupha elizalisekileyo” lezinto ezibonwayo, izandi kunye nenkanuko. Akukabikho thuba lide ingqondo encinci inokuba likhoboka.

Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni wemeko apho ulutsha lufumana imfundo yezokwabelana ngesondo kwiindawo ezingamanyala kwi-intanethi. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abantu abaye babona inani elikhulu le-pornography banokuthi baqale ukulala ngesondo ngokukhawuleza, babe neentlobano zesini kunye namaqabane amaninzi, kwaye babandakanyeke ekuziphatheni ngokwesondo okuyingozi. Iisayithi zephonografi azibi nesilumkiso ngempilo enkenenkene ebangelwa kukusetyenziswa kwazo. Oko bekuya kufana nokuqesha umthengisi wecuba ukuba afundise iklasi yezempilo ngemikhwa esempilweni yokutshaya. Ndiyakwazi ukucinga ukuba akukho mntu unokuva malunga nezibalo zomhlaza okanye indlela ukutshaya kukunciphisa ngayo ixesha lokuphila komntu.

I-Porn Warps Iingcamango zethu malunga nesondo

Kanye njengokuba yingozi njengemifanekiso ecacileyo kwimifanekiso engamanyala zizinto ezingabonisiyo. Iphonografi ayibonisi yonke imiba yokwabelana ngesondo okunempilo njengokuthetha kunye nokunxibelelana ngonxibelelwano, unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo ngokumanga, uthando, ukuphathana okunentsingiselo, kunye nokukhonza omnye nomnye ngolonwabo olugxile kwezinye.

Awusoze usifumane isilumkiso malunga nemiphumo yokulalana okungakhuselekanga xa ubukela imifanekiso engamanyala. Ngokomzekelo, akukho nanye kwezi ndawo ikhankanya ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba kubekho izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini, ukukhulelwa, umhlaza womlomo wesibeleko, imikrwelo, okanye izifunxi-gazi. Kwiphonografi, kungakhathaliseki indlela omnye umntu aphathwa ngayo, yenziwa ukuba ibonakale ngathi ilungile, iyanqweneleka yaye ayinabungozi. Nangona abafazi bebethwa, bebethwa, bengxolisa, okanye benzakaliswa ngezinye iindlela, umphumo uphantse ufane ufane: ixhoba lisabela ngolonwabo okanye aliphenduli kwaphela.

UGqr. Gary Brooks, unjingalwazi wengqondo ofunda ngemiphumo yephonografi, wathi, “Amakhwenkwe aqala ukuba neentlobano zesini [ngephonografi] afundiswa ngendlela enokubangela ukuba ahlale nawo ubomi bawo bonke.”⁸ UGqr Abraham Morgentaler, unjingalwazi onxulumene notyando kwi-Harvard Medical School kunye nomlawuli we-Men's Health Boston uthi, "Amadoda amaninzi akhula ngoku abukele i-porn ye-intanethi afunde ukuziphatha kwabo ngokwesini kunye nendlela yokuvuselela ... ngendlela engenakulinganiswa ngesondo sangempela."⁹

I-Porn ibulala imitshato: Nantsi indlela

Ngaba ukhe wavuka ekuseni wacinga, “I wonder ndingawuchitha okanye ndiwujongele phantsi umtshato wam namhlanje? Ndiyazibuza ukuba ndingalinika njani iqabane lam umthamo omkhulu wokungakhuseleki? " Mhlawumbi akunjalo, kodwa yiloo nto kanye eyenziwa ngamanyala kulwalamano lwakho neqabane lakho. Ukubukela iphonografi kuphelisa ukuthembana emtshatweni. Yandisa ukuziphatha okubi kwaye isusa ingqalelo kabani emtshatweni nakwintsapho. Ngaphaya koko, ivula umnyango wokufumana okanye wokudibana neqabane elitsha lezesondo ngelixa uchitha ixesha kwi-intanethi.

Uninzi lwabasetyhini aluboni indima yamkelekileyo yephonografi phakathi kobudlelwane babo bomtshato obuzibophelele. Emva kohlolisiso lweminyaka engama-30 oluphathelele imiphumo yephonografi, abaphengululi uJennings Bryant noDolf Zillman kwiYunivesithi yaseAlabama bafumanisa ukuba “ukusebenzisa amanyala kwenza abantu abaninzi bangoneliseki yinkangeleko yangaphandle yamaqabane abo, indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngokwesini, umdla wokufuna ukwazi ngokwesini nothando lwabo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abasebenzisi abaninzi bakhula bengenankathalo ngakumbi kubasetyhini ngokubanzi, abafane baxabise ukuba nomntu omnye kunye nomtshato kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba babe neembono ezigqwethekileyo zesini. Bakwafunyaniswa ukuba abasondelelani kakhulu namaqabane abo kwaye bangoneliseki kangako kubomi babo bothando. Okokugqibela, abaninzi bagqibela ngokuqhatha amaqabane abo.”¹⁰

Sele siqaphele ukuba i-porn iphinda isebenze njani ingqondo. Omnye umbandela oyingozi emtshatweni kukuba ukusebenzisa iphonografi kukhokelela kulwaneliseko oluncinane nomdla kwiqabane likabani. Abasebenzisi ngokwenene baye baphendule kancinci kubomi bokwenyani bezesondo. Ycinge. Amadoda nabasetyhini kwi-porn babukeka bemangalisa, bebancinci, ubomi babo bonke. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ziphuculwa ngotyando kwaye zifakwe umoya kwimfezeko. Omnye umbhali wabhala, "Namhlanje, abafazi abahamba ze bokwenyani bangamanyala nje amanyala."

Kwenzeka ntoni kwiNdawo yoMphefumlo ngokuSebenzisa i-Porn?

Ukubukela iphonografi kuvula umnyango womphefumlo nomoya wethu kwingcinezelo yokomoya, ukudideka, ukungabi nathemba, ukwenzakala, ukulawula, kunye nokongamela ububi. Abafazi baziva bengcatshiwe, belahliwe, behlazekile, abakhange bathandeke, belahliwe, bengamalolo, bengento yanto, benomsindo, behlazekile ngamadoda asebenzisa amanyala. Bayaqhathwa ngokwenene. Abafazi bavakalelwa kukuba abanakukhuphisana nemifanekiso ebukelwa ngamadoda abo. Iphonografi inikela uluvo lokuba ibhinqa linokwenza nantoni na ukuze likholise indoda, ukanti kwihlabathi lokwenene isimo sengqondo esinjalo yintelekelelo nje. Oku kuzisa ukungazithembi kuye kwaye kunokutshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Uya kubuza umtsalane wakhe kunye nokufaneleka kwakhe njengomthandi. Ekugqibeleni unokucinga kwaye akholelwe ukuba i-porn ibaluleke ngakumbi kumyeni wakhe kunaye kuye, enokuba yinyani. Kukungcatsha ngokwesondo ekugqibeleni.

Noko ke, amadoda adla ngokujonga iphonografi njengephupha nje elingeyongozi, isicombululo sokuba nesithukuthezi, okanye isicombululo sokuba neqabane lesondo elingayiphumeziyo into ayifunayo. Amadoda akhawuleza ukulungelelanisa kunye nokulungelelanisa ukuziphatha kwawo, ebiza ngokuthi "ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo" kwendoda evuswa ngokubonakalayo. Badibanisa kunye nabasetyhini kwi-porn "abahlala befumaneka," kwaye babanjwe ngumnqweno wokuvuswa ngokungapheliyo. Amabhinqa aboniswa kwiphonografi aselula, anomtsalane, yaye axhalabele ukukholisa. Akadikwa okanye acaphuke kwaye akaze abe nosuku olubi. Unokuthelekisa njani nomfazi nomama oye wajijisana nomntwana oselula imini yonke, osebenza phantsi kweemeko ezimaxongo okanye ojongene nabazali abalupheleyo abamgqibela ngamandla akhe onke?

Xa abantu bebeka imeko yobuchopho babo ukuba buvuswe zezi nguqulelo zibaxiweyo ngokupheleleyo zesini, baneengxaki zokwenyani xa kufika ixesha lokungena phakathi kwamaphepha. Ngokusisiseko, iphonografi kukwabelana ngesondo kokwenyani njengoko iSpam ikwi-steak-ixabiso eliphantsi, elibaxayo. Iphonografi ayinciphisi nje amandla amadoda okuba neentlobano zesini ezilungileyo, isusa amandla awo okwabelana ngesondo kwaphela.

Iphonografi ibulala uthando lokwenyani kuba ayiyonyani. Iphepha ngalinye, indawo nganye, yonke imuvi ayiyonyani. Asiyonyani! Abasebenzisi be-porn baye bagxeke ngothando kwaye bangazibophelelanga kumaqabane abo, kodwa yonke into yakhelwe kubuxoki. Obu busenokuba bubuxoki obufana nobu, “Kukubukela abantu besabelana ngesondo kwaye ukwabelana ngesondo kuyindalo,” “Iphonografi sisiphazamiso esimsulwa; ayinabungozi,” okanye “Iphonografi iyindlela ekhuselekileyo yokufunda ngesini.” Ngokungathi kukukhohlisa, abanye baya kuphikisa ukuba iphonografi ayikhathazi mntu. Hayi indlela ekungeyonyaniso ngayo!

Inxeba lomphefumlo elingacacanga kangako lephonografi kukuba uninzi lobudlelwane buchaphazeleka lutshintsho olwenzeka kwingqondo. Inokuyigqwetha indlela abathengi ababona ngayo abantu, abahlobo babo, amalungu osapho, abantu abasebenza nabo, intombi yommelwane okanye unyana, intombi kabani, kunye nabantu abangabaziyo esitratweni. Njani? I-porn ixelela abathengi ukuba abantu zizinto ezinenjongo yodwa yokubonelela ngokwaneliseka ngokwesondo. Oko kunxibelelene ngokuthe ngqo nokwenza ubomi bomntu bube sisimbuku samalungu omzimba, ukulahla ixabiso lokwenene nexabiso analo.

Ngelishwa, ayipheli apho. Umsebenzisi wephonografi uba ngumntu ozithiyileyo, naye. Yinto ehlayo yokulutha kwimifanekiso yobuxoki, uthando lobuxoki, kunye nobomi bobuxoki.

Iimfihlo ezimnyama zabenzi bamanyala

Kwiphonografi, imixholo iyalawulwa, iyabethwa, ixhatshazwe ngokwesondo, ithotywe isidima-kwaye konke oku kusekelwe kwimvume kunye nesivumelwano. Kodwa kwabaninzi, obu bubukhoboka bale mihla okanye ukurhweba ngabantu. Ukurhweba ngabantu kukuthenga nokuthengisa abantu, okanye ukuhambisa abantu ukuze basetyenziselwe inzuzo. Ehlabathini lonke kuqikelelwa ukuba amakhoboka aphakathi kwezigidi ezingama-21 ukusa kwezingama-32. Malunga nama-22% abo barhweba ngezenzo zokwabelana ngesondo. Kuyoyikeka ngakumbi ukuba umyinge weminyaka yabantwana abathengiswa ngokungekho mthethweni—baze bafotwe—yiminyaka eli-12.8.¹¹

Amaxesha amaninzi iphonografi kunye nokurhweba ngesondo yinto enye. Kunikelwa ingxelo yokuba phantse isiqingatha samaxhoba okurhweba ngesini athi ayesetyenziswa kwiifilimu ezibonisa amanyala. Aba bantu bavela kwihlabathi liphela betsalwa zizithembiso zobuxoki ezinje, “Yiza eMelika ukuze uqale umsebenzi wakho wokuba ngumzekelo. Yiza uqale ubomi obutsha.”

Kuthetha Ntoni Oku Kuthi?

Ngokujonga iphonografi, uxhasa ishishini le-porn kwaye uncede ukuba likhule. Ufak’ isandla ekuxhatshazweni ngokwesini kwamaxhoba abanjwe kweli hlabathi lobumnyama. Uyongeza kwisono sokurhweba ngabantu. Uthi “ewe” kwishishini elingenisa iibhiliyoni zeerandi elondla lize lihlasele amadoda, abafazi nabantwana abamsulwa nelinokude likhokelele ekuxhwilweni okanye ekubulaweni kwabo. Ufunda ukubona nokuphatha abafazi namadoda njengezinto zesini. Uyabatshabalalisa abo bavaleleke kolu shishino (namhlanje olubandakanya amantombazana amaninzi akwishumi elivisayo kunangaphambili), umtshato wakho, usapho lwakho, kunye nawe. Ude uxhase ukuxhwilwa kwabantwana. Iziko leSizwe laBantwana abalahlekileyo nabaSebenzisiweyo lirekhode iingxelo zemifanekiso ezizigidi ezingama-69 zezixhobo zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo (i-porn yabantwana) ngo-2019.¹² Kukho unxibelelwano ngokucacileyo phakathi kwabantwana abalahlekileyo kunye nephonografi.

Ewe, uyayixolela kwaye uyilungise. Uzixelele ukuba akulunganga kangako. Ukujonga nje ngokukhawuleza; ngumnqweno wemvelo . Abanye benu bade batshintshe i-theology yakho ukuze uzixelele, okanye uzame ukuziqinisekisa, ukuba iphonografi ilungile kuThixo.

Kodwa Andikhoboli!

Unokuba nemiyalezo eya engqondweni yakho ngoku isithi, "Inokuba yinyani yonke into, kodwa ayindim laa mntu."

Wazi njani ukuba ulikhoboka? Nazi ezinye izikhokelo.¹³

Uziva ulawulekile, uphelelwe ngamandla, yaye ungenamandla okuxhathisa isilingo sokubukela amanyala.
Unako kwaye ujongene nokunyuka rhoqo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwephonografi.
Uyaxoka ngokusetyenziswa kwakho.
Uxakeke ngeengcinga zesini kunye neengcamango.
Uzixelela ukuba imeko yakho ayimbi njengabanye okanye uzame ukujongela phantsi ukusebenzisa kwakho.
Uzamile ukuyekisa ukusetyenziswa okuqhubekayo.
Uphelelwa ngumdla kwisini kwaye ufumane iphonografi inika umdla ngakumbi.
Ulahlekelwa ngumtsalane kwiqabane lakho lobomi bokwenyani.
Uqala ukwenza iprojekthi kwaye ufune kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo into oyibonayo kwiindawo ezingamanyala.

Iimpendulo Ziyafumaneka

Nangona oku kusenokuvakala kudimaza yaye kulizothe, siyazi ukuba sinako ukwahlukana nokuba likhoboka lephonografi. Kufuneka sinikeze ithemba kwaye sixelele abantu ukuba kukho indlela eya kwinguqu nenkululeko. Akukho sono uYesu angasifelayo. Umoya wethu neengqondo zethu kufuneka zihlanjululwe ngegazi uMsindisi wethu elapha emnqamlezweni. Inkululeko iyafumaneka.

Siza kucacisa ngakumbi ngendlela esa enkululekweni kwinqaku elilandelayo.

Endnotes

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