Ukuphelela Kocansi: Ukubhekana Nezithombe Zocansi (Ingxenye 1)

Inselele yokusetshenziswa kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili nendlela eziwuthinta ngayo umphakathi

Ibhalwe nguSteve Prokopchak

Lesi yisihloko sokuqala kwezimbili ngesihloko sokuphelela ocansini. Lesi sihloko sokuqala sibheka inselele yokusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili nendlela eziwuthinta ngayo umphakathi. I isihloko sesibili izokwethula isisombululo seBhayibheli sokubhekana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokuhamba ngobulili obuphelele.

UDkt. Doug Weiss ubhala ukuthi kunokuhlobana okuqondile phakathi kokuziphatha komuntu ngokobulili nesiphetho kuKristu. Uthi, “UNkulunkulu waklama mina nawe ukuba senze izinto ezimangalisayo embusweni wakhe, futhi izinga lethu lokuhlanzeka ngokobulili liyonquma ukuthi siwusizo kangakanani. Ubulili nesiphetho kuxhumene futhi yingakho udeveli esebenza kanzima ukuze akubambe esonweni sobulili.”¹

Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngokwencazelo, “ziyizinto ezibeka ingcaca ubulili ngokuyinhloko ezihloselwe ngokuyinhloko ngenjongo yokuvusa inkanuko yobulili.” IBhayibheli lisebenzisa igama lesiGreki porneia, okusho ukuthi “ubufebe, ubufebe, ukuphinga noma ukuziphatha okubi kobulili.” Igama elithi “izithombe zobulili ezingcolile” lisuselwa kuleli gama lesiGreki.

Masiqinisekise kwasekuqaleni ukuthi lapho sibuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili siziphatha kabi ngokobulili futhi sihlambalaza icebo likaNkulunkulu lokusondelana phakathi kwemingcele yomshado: indoda eyodwa nowesifazane oyedwa. Okubaluleke kakhulu, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azisoze zasiyisa lapho uNkulunkulu ekugcineni efisa ukusiyisa ekuhambeni kwethu Naye.

Izibalo kanye Nodaba Lwezithombe Zocansi

Siye sabona abaholi abaningi esontweni, kwezombangazwe nabasebenzi bengathathi hlangothi ngenxa yokuziphatha okubi. Babeyizinkanyezi eziphumayo—kodwa asisazwa, sifunde ngazo, noma asifuni ukubalingisa.

Inhlolo-vo eyenziwa ezweni lonke emasontweni ase-United States yembula ukuthi ngo-2023, amadoda angama-65% nabefundisi abangamaphesenti angu-57 baye banenkinga yokubuka izithombe ezingcolile, kungaba okwamanje noma esikhathini esidlule.² Kodwa, izibalo ezishaqisayo kakhulu ukuthi abafana abaneminyaka eyishumi nanye kuya kweyishumi nesikhombisa ubudala babike ukuthi bangabasebenzisi abakhulu kuma-85%. Cishe i-57% yamantombazane amancane atholakale esebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengoba kubikwe yi-Covenant Eyes.³ Babika nokuthi umfundisi oyedwa kwabahlanu nomfundisi oyedwa kwabayisikhombisa e-United States basebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili njalo. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile e-United States ziphakathi kwemboni ephakathi kwezigidi eziyizinkulungwane ezine kuya kwezingu-4—kuye ngokuthi umthombo wezibalo uvelaphi.

Ucwaningo luqhubeka lukhombisa ukuthi abantu abadala abayizigidi ezingamashumi amane bavakashela njalo izingosi zezithombe zocansi eziku-inthanethi.⁴ Kuchithwa imali eningi ezithombeni ezingcolile ngonyaka kune-baseball ye-pro, i-basketball ye-pro, ibhola lezinyawo, kanye ne-Super Bowl kuhlangene. Ukuthengiswa kwezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ku-inthanethi kudlula ukuthengiswa okunqwabelanayo kwayo yonke eminye imikhiqizo ethengiswa ku-inthanethi. Amafilimu abantu abadala ayizinkulungwane eziyishumi nanye akhiqizwa ngonyaka, okuyinani eliphindwe kamashumi amabili kunani lamafilimu avamile emidiya aphuma eHollywood. Indaba yokusetshenziswa kwezithombe ezingcolile idla lubi ebandleni, ngisho nentsha yamanje iphumela obala futhi iyathinteka. Kuwubhubhane.

Kunamakhasi angaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-400 wezithombe ezingcolile ezitholakala kumawebhusayithi angaphezu kwezigidi ezine. I-70% yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zilandwa ngesikhathi somsebenzi - 9:00 am to 5:00 pm

Singaphawula ukuthi isizukulwane samanje siyisizukulwane esilwa nokushushumbiswa kocansi ngaphezu kwanoma yisiphi esinye. Kodwa-ke, lesi sizukulwane siphinde sisebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokushesha kunanoma yisiphi esinye. Kukhona okungahlangani.

Izibalo ezimangalisayo ziyaqhubeka*

I-47% yemindeni yaseMelika ibika ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyinkinga emakhaya abo.
Ngonyaka odlule, amasayithi e-porn ayizigidi eziyizinkulungwane ezingu-165 abukiwe.
Amaphesenti angu-88 kuya kwangu-97% amadoda aseMelika abika ukuthi abuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngesikhathi esithile, kanye ne-83% yabesifazane.
Izithombe zocansi zinyusa izinga lokungathembeki emshadweni ngo-300%.
Isilinganiso sobudala lapho ingane iqala ukuchayeka khona ezithombeni ezingcolile siyiminyaka eyishumi nanye; I-94% yezingane izobona izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngeminyaka eyishumi nane.
Amaphesenti angu-60 amantombazane aneminyaka engaphansi kweshumi nesishiyagalombili abhekana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
I-56% yezehlukaniso zaseMelika zibandakanya iqembu elilodwa “elinentshisekelo enkulu” kumawebhusayithi ezithombe zocansi.
U-59% wabefundisi uthe amadoda ashadile afuna usizo lwawo ukuze anqobe ukusetshenziswa kocansi.
I-33% yabesifazane abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu nangaphansi bafuna i-porn okungenani kanye ngenyanga.
I-55% yamadoda ashadile kanye ne-25% yabesifazane abashadile bathi babuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile okungenani kanye ngenyanga.
U-7% wabefundisi uthi ibandla labo linohlelo lokusiza abantu abanenkinga yokusebenzisa amanyala.
Amahora we-17.8 trillion we-porn asetshenziswa njalo ngonyaka.
Ngokusho kwethuluzi le-SEMrush Traffic Analysis, kusukela ngoMeyi 2021, izingosi zezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithola ithrafikhi eningi e-US kune-Twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Pinterest kanye ne-LinkedIn zihlangene.⁵

Umlando Omfishane Wezocansi

Ngo-1948, uDkt. Alfred Kinsey washicilela incwadi enempikiswano kodwa ethandwayo ekhuluma ngobulili. Wayengomunye wososayensi bokuqala ukuxoxa ngokukhululekile ngocansi, futhi izincwadi zakhe zithengiswa njengohlanya.

Ngo-1950, amaphesenti angu-8 abantu baseMelika athi abuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Leso sibalo sikhule safinyelela ku-76% ngo-2023.

Ngo-1953, uHugh Heffner washicilela ikhophi yakhe yokuqala ethi Playboy umagazini. U-Heffner wasebenzisa ithuba lokushintsha imikhuba yocansi futhi waqala ukuphrinta izithombe zobulili ezingcolile eceleni kwezihloko nezindatshana ezibhalwe ababhali abahlonishwayo. Wethula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengento engenangozi, ehloniphekile, nejabulisayo.

Ngawo-1980, kwafika ubuchwepheshe bamateyipu e-VCR. Manje izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zase zingabukwa ekhaya esikhundleni sezinkundla zemidlalo yaseshashalazini ezinomhlwenga. Kwaba ukufinyeleleka okuningi.

Ngawo-1990, izithombe zocansi zafika ku-inthanethi futhi zazitholakala kalula ngokuchofoza izinkinobho ezimbalwa. Imboni yezocansi eku-inthanethi yaqhuma. Kusukela ngo-1998 kuya ku-2007, imboni ikhule ngo-1800%. Ngo-2004, amasayithi ocansi ayethola ukuvakashelwa okuphindwe kathathu kune-Google, Yahoo! kanye ne-MSN Search ihlanganiswe ndawonye!

Izithombe ezingcolile zobulili zaqala nokugqama kumabhayisikobho aseHollywood ne-TV ngeziteshi ezikhokhelwayo uma zibuka. Phakathi kuka-1998 no-2005, inani lezigcawu zocansi ku-TV liphindeke kabili. Lokhu kwakungelona iqiniso ngeTV yabantu abadala kuphela; kwenzeka nakumabonakude wentsha. Namuhla, cishe yonke imikhiqizo yezentengiselwano imakethwa ngokukhangisa esebenzisa ucansi noma izithombe zocansi.

Izibalo kanye newebhusayithi ye-Pornhub

Izibalo zisitshela ukuthi u-35% wakho konke ukulanda ku-inthanethi kuhlobene nezithombe zocansi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuphi uma uku-inthanethi, amasayithi e-porn atholakala ngokuchofoza kabili noma kathathu kuphela.

Amanye amaqiniso mayelana nesayithi le-Pornhub:

Ividiyo eyodwa kwezintathu inobudlova ngokwemvelo.
Amavidiyo aphezulu adumile ayikhulu anesilinganiso sokubukwa kwezigidi ezingu-65.4.
U-50% wamavidiyo we-Pornhub afaka okuqukethwe kwamavidiyo ahlobene nezihlobo.
Ividiyo edume kakhulu inokubukwa okuyizigidi ezingama-230 kanti ividiyo edume kancane inokubukwa okuyizigidi ezingama-40.

Ngokungaphezulu kwe-60% yezindawo zocansi eziphethwe e-US, alikho elinye izwe emhlabeni elikhiqiza izithombe ezingcolile zobulili.

Inqubo Yokumisa

I-Conditioning iyinqubo yokuqeqesha umuntu ukuba amukele izimo ezithile noma aziphathe ngendlela ethile. Kuyinqubo yokujwayela okuthile, cishe ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho noma ukuqaphela. I-conditioning ivama ukukhula njengomphumela wokuqiniswa okufana nomvuzo wempendulo ethile. Ukulungiswa kwezingane kuqala, isibonelo, ngokushesha nje lapho abafana benikezwa izibhamu zokudlala noma amantombazane anikezwa onodoli.

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisitshela ngenqubo enezinyathelo ezinhlanu zokubhekana nezithombe ezingcolile.

Isinyathelo sokuqala - isingeniso noma ukuchayeka: Lokhu kwenzeka ngenxa yokuchayeka ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi njengoba kutholakala kumamagazini, amavidiyo, i-TV, noma ikhompuyutha. Kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwesingeniso ekunukubezweni ngokocansi, ngokuvamile oluvela “kumngane.” Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka ebuntwaneni.

Isinyathelo sesibili - umkhuba/impoqo eholela ekubeni umlutha: Labo abahlale bezichaya ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile bathola ukuthi kufanele babuyele ngokuqhubekayo ukuze bathole okwengeziwe–ukuze babe nokunye okuphakeme. Lokhu kuqala inqubo yamakhemikhali esizokhuluma ngayo ngokujulile kamuva. (Bona "Indlela ubuchopho obushintsha ngayo" ngezansi.)

Isinyathelo sesithathu - ukuqinisa: Ukuphakama kwangaphambilini akwanele futhi umsebenzisi ubheka izindlela ezingavamile zokuziphatha kocansi ukuze azikhuthaze.

Isinyathelo sesine - ukungezwani komzimba: Okungajwayelekile kuba yinto ejwayelekile. Ayikho into eshaqisayo noma ehlanekezelwe. Ukukhathazeka kokulimaza abanye kuyalahleka ekuphishekeleni isipiliyoni esilandelayo socansi.

Isinyathelo sesihlanu - ukwenza ngokuvumelana nephupho/imicabango yomuntu: Ekugcineni, senza lokho esikubonile nesikuthola kujabulisa. Abaningi bafuna izindlela zokufeza izifiso kumngane womshado, isifebe, noma ingane. Kaningi, lokhu kubangela ukudlwengulwa. Kwenye inhlolovo yabantu ababeyizifebe, i-80% yathi amakhasimende ayebabonise izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuze abonise lokho ababekulindele ekuhlangenwe nakho kocansi.

Indlela Ubuchopho Obusebenza Ngayo Iyashintsha

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lapho sihileleka ocansini, ubuchopho bukhipha ikhemikhali ebizwa ngokuthi i-oxytocin, kanye namanye amakhemikhali. I-Oxytocin ingabizwa ngokuthi iglue ekuxhumaneni kwabantu. Ngokwesibonelo, i-oxytocin iphinde ikhishwe njengoba umama ebamba usana lwakhe olusha esikhunjeni sakhe ukuze ancelise ingane, okudala isibopho esingokomzwelo.

Uma sibuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ama-neurotransmitters anamandla afana ne-dopamine (ikhemikhali ekhishwe "esikhungweni somvuzo" sobuchopho) nawo akhululwa. Ubuchopho bethu bese buthatha lezo zithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi budale isibopho, empeleni buphazamise ukuhlangana kwabantu nobulili.

IZwi likaNkulunkulu liyasinxusa, “Ngakho-ke lungiselelani izingqondo zenu ukusebenza; zibambe; bekani ithemba lenu ngokugcweleyo emuseni enizawunikwa mhla uJesu Kristu ebonakaliswa. Njengabantwana abalalelayo, ningalandeli izifiso ezimbi enaninazo ngesikhathi nisekungazini. Kodwa njengoba lowo owanibizayo engcwele, yibani ngcwele kukho konke enikwenzayo.”1 Peter 1: 13-15).

UDkt. Tim Jennings, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uthi noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuziphatha okuphindaphindayo ludala imizila ebuchosheni bethu “evutha” ngokulandelana okuzenzakalelayo.⁶ Ngakho, amadoda nabesifazane abathanda uJesu ngokweqiniso ngenhliziyo yabo yonke bangaba sebugqilini bobulili esitheni ngenxa yokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokuphindaphindiwe. Kufanele futhi siqaphele ukuthi uNkulunkulu ufisa ukuba sisondelane nomuntu esishade naye ngokobulili, kuyilapho isitha sifisa ukuba sibe yizigqila zezinto ezingcolile zobulili.

Kusebenza Kanjani Lokhu Empeleni?

Njenganoma yisiphi isidakamizwa noma into engase ibe umlutha, lapho i-dopamine ikhishwa, isikhungo semivuzo ebuchosheni siyabandakanyeka. Isibonelo, isistimu yokuklomelisa ikutshela ukuthi uzizwa ujabule ngemva kokudla ukudla okwanelisayo noma ukujima okuhle. Iphinde ixhumane nalowo muzwa omuhle isikhathi ngasinye lapho uhileleke kuleyo misebenzi. (Ngendlela, ubuchopho bethu ngokwemvelo busebenza kanzima ukuze busikhuthaze ukuthi senze izinto ezithile ezizosigcina sinempilo.)

Kodwa-ke, ubuchopho bungaphinde bubuyele enjabulweni ngokuthola injabulo enkulu. Lokhu ikwenza ngosizo lweprotheyini ebizwa ngokuthi i-DeltaFosB. Le phrotheni yakha ukuxhumana okusha kobuchopho ukuze sikhumbule okwenzekile futhi sikuphinde kamuva. Lapho siphindaphinda into ethile kaningi, yilapho ukuxhumana kwemizwa kuba okuhlala njalo futhi silangazelela kakhulu ukuzizwisa okunikeziwe.

Nansi ingxenye ekhohlisayo yale nqubo. I-DeltaFosB iphinda ikhumbule izinhlobo zokuxhuma kumininingwane ehlotshaniswa nolwazi. Lezi zinhlangano zibizwa ngokuthi "izimpawu". Ngokwesibonelo, umuntu obhemayo angase anqandwe iphunga lentuthu kagwayi, noma umlutha wotshwala angase abe nezindlela ezibangelwa ukubona ibhodlela. Kumilutha, umhlaba wonke uqala ukuzizwa njengeqoqo lezinkomba nezinto ezibangela ukuba zibuyele ekuluthweni kwazo. Lapho indlela izwakala, ivuswa kalula yizimpawu ezibonakala nsuku zonke.

Lokhu kudala indida, ikakhulukazi ekholweni elinomlutha. Osebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili, izidakamizwa, noma utshwala ufuna futhi ukulangazelela kakhulu, ngaso sonke isikhathi ekuthanda kancane kancane. Ukusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile kuwukuziphatha okukhulayo ngoba labo abazisebenzisayo baqala ukubekezelela. Uma lokho sekwenzekile, i-porn eyengeziwe iyadingeka noma i-porn eqinile kakhulu iphishekela izinga elifanayo lenjabulo ewumphumela. Ngeshwa, abathwebuli bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile balapho, balungile futhi balindile ngezinto ezikhulayo ezikhulayo.

Ngokuvamile ukufinyelela kwezithombe ezingcolile “kumahhala,” kuze kube yilapho lesi sifiso esikhulayo sokwanda okwengeziwe singaholela umuntu ukuba asebenzise imali ezithombeni ezingcolile. Lokhu kudala izinkinga zezimali zomuntu siqu ezenza isimo sibe nzima. Njalo ngomzuzwana wansuku zonke, $3,075 isetshenziswa ku-porn. Ngento engekho ngokoqobo esigcawini, kulinganiselwa ukuthi i-VR izoba yibhizinisi lebhiliyoni elilodwa ngonyaka ka-2025. I-VR yezithombe zocansi izothuthukisa imali engenayo yesayithi yezocansi ngendlela engenakulinganiswa.

Ukwenyuka Kokusetshenziswa Kwezithombe Ezingcolile

Ukudlondlobala kwenzeka ngoba sizitshela ukuthi sijabuliswa nje ngento engenabungozi. Phela uNkulunkulu wadala amadoda nabesifazane kanye nobulili. Kodwa okwamanje, ubuchopho bethu bumatasatasa bakha ukuxhumana phakathi kwemizwa yokuvuka kanye nanoma yini eyenzekayo esikrinini. Lapho kusetshenziswa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokwengeziwe futhi zijwayelana, izindlela eziyingozi kakhulu zazo ezidingekayo ukuze zivukwe.

Ocwaningweni olwenziwa izinsizwa ezindala ezingu-1,500 56, ezingu-53% zathi ukuthanda kwazo izithombe ezingcolile zobulili “kwakuyeqisa noma kuhlanekezelwe ngokwandayo.” Ekugcineni, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingashintsha izimo zengqondo ezisekela udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azinangqondo futhi zikhazimulisa ubudlova nokucwasa ngokobulili, i-39% yabafana kanye ne-XNUMX% yamantombazane ikholelwa ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyiqiniso ekubonisweni kwazo ubulili.⁷ Lokhu kubonisa indlela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezikhohlisa ngayo nokuthi zingawushintsha kanjani umuzwa wethu wokujwayelekile.

Kubalingani abashadile, ukunambitheka okuhlobene nesipiliyoni socansi kushintsha kakhulu kangangokuthi umuntu onomlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokuvamile akakwazi ukuphendula ngokocansi kubalingani bakhe bangempela. Izikhathi eziningi, lokhu kuholela ohambweni oluya kudokotela ukuze uthole ukwelashwa kwe-ED (ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile). Eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu edlule, ukusetshenziswa kwe-ED kwakubangelwa ukuguga kwendoda noma ukusebenzisa imithi. Kwakungakaze kuzwakale emadodeni aneminyaka engaphansi kwamashumi amathathu nanhlanu. Namuhla, i-ED engapheli ithinta amadoda asebasha kanye nama-20s. Lokhu kwanda kuhlobene ngokuqondile nokusetshenziswa kwe-porn ye-inthanethi.

Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zinamandla amakhulu okwenza izindlela ezihlala isikhathi eside ebuchosheni. Cishe ayikho enye into engaqhudelana nayo, ngisho nobulili bangempela nophathina wangempela. I-Porn empeleni inganqoba ikhono lemvelo lobuchopho lokuya ocansini lwangempela! Cabanga ngalabo bantu abahlezi phambi kwekhompiyutha ngo-3:00 ekuseni begcwele izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Ngisho nokulala akukwazi ukuncintisana nale ndlela yobuchopho yokuzijabulisa, ukugunyazwa kwesikhungo somvuzo, i-dopamine kanye nokufisa okwengeziwe. Njengomzila osetshenziswa kahle ehlathini, indlela yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile iba banzi futhi isetshenziswe kakhudlwana kuze kube yilapho umuntu eqala ukucabanga, “Lokhu kuzwakala kumnandi kakhulu, asikwenze ngokuphindaphindiwe.”

Intsha kanye Nezocansi

Ungacabanga nje ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziba impoqo kangakanani, ikakhulukazi ezingqondweni ezisencane njengezentsha. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi isikhungo semivuzo yentsha sinamandla aphindwe kabili kuya kane kunesomuntu omdala. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile “ziyiphupho” lezinto ezibonwayo nemisindo nokuvusa inkanuko. Akuphelanga isikhathi eside ingqondo esencane ingalutheka.

Bona ngeso lengqondo isimo lapho intsha ithola khona imfundo yocansi kumasayithi ezithombe zocansi ku-inthanethi. Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi abantu ababone inani elikhulu lezithombe zobulili ezingcolile banamathuba amaningi okuthi baqale ukuya ocansini ngokushesha, baye ocansini nabalingani abaningi, futhi bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni kocansi okuyingozi. Izingosi zezithombe ezingcolile azifiki nesixwayiso ngempilo embi ebangelwa ukusetshenziswa kwazo. Lokho kungafana nokuqasha umdayisi kagwayi ukuba afundise ikilasi lezempilo ngemikhuba enempilo yokubhema. Ngiyacabanga nje akekho owayengezwa ngezibalo zomdlavuza noma ukuthi ukubhema kusifinyeza kanjani isikhathi sokuphila komuntu.

I-Porn Warps Imibono Yethu Ngocansi

Okuyingozi kakhulu njengezithombe ezingcolile ezingcolile yizinto ezingabonisi. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azibonisi zonke izici zocansi olunempilo njengokukhuluma nokuxhumana ngokukhulumisana, ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo ngokugona, ngothando, ukuthintana okunenjongo, kanye nokukhonza omunye nomunye ngentokozo egxile kokunye.

Awusoze wathola isexwayiso ngemiphumela yocansi olungavikelekile lapho ubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Isibonelo, azikho izingosi ezisho ukuthi kungenzeka kube nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, ukukhulelwa, umdlavuza womlomo wesibeletho, imihuzuko, noma ama-parasites. Ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi omunye umuntu uphathwa kanjani, kwenziwa kubonakale sengathi kumnandi, kufiseleka, futhi akukaze kube yingozi ngempela. Nakuba abesifazane beshaywa, bebhaxabulwa, bethethiswa, noma belinyazwa ngezinye izindlela, umphumela ucishe ufane: isisulu siphendula ngenjabulo noma singaphenduli nhlobo.

UDkt. Gary Brooks, uprofesa wezengqondo ocwaninga ngemiphumela yezithombe ezingcolile zobulili, wathi, “Abafana abangenelwa ubulili [ngezithombe ezingcolile] bafundiswa indlela engase bahlale nabo ukuphila kwabo konke.”⁸ UDkt Abraham Morgentaler, uprofesa ohlanganyele wokuhlinzwa e-Harvard Medical School kanye nomqondisi we-Men's Health Boston uthi, "Amadoda amaningi akhula manje abuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi afunda ubulili babo nokuthi bangashukunyiswa kanjani ... ngendlela engafaniswa nobulili bangempela."⁹

I-Porn Ibulala Imishado: Nansi Indlela

Wake wavuka ekuseni wacabanga, “Kazi ngingawubhidliza noma ngiwucekele phansi umshado wami namuhla? Ngiyazibuza ukuthi ngingamnika kanjani engishade naye umthamo omkhulu wokungazethembi?" Cishe akunjalo, kodwa yilokho kanye izithombe ezingcolile ezikwenzayo ebuhlotsheni bakho nomngane wakho womshado. Ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunciphisa ukuthembela ebuhlotsheni bomshado. Kukhulisa ukuziphatha okuxekethile futhi kususe ukunaka komuntu emshadweni nasemndenini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuvula umnyango wokuthola noma wokuhlangana nozakwethu omusha wocansi ngenkathi uchitha isikhathi ku-inthanethi.

Iningi labesifazane aliboni indima eyamukelekayo yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ebudlelwaneni babo bomshado abazibophezele. Ngemva kocwaningo lweminyaka engu-30 ngemiphumela yezithombe ezingcolile, abacwaningi uJennings Bryant noDolf Zillman e-University of Alabama bathola ukuthi “ukudla izithombe ezingcolile kwenza abantu abaningi banganeliseki ngendlela ababukeka ngayo abalingani babo, indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngokobulili, ilukuluku lobulili nothando. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abasebenzisi abaningi bakhula bengenaluzwela kubantu besifazane ngokujwayelekile, mancane amathuba okuthi baqakathekise ukushada nomuntu oyedwa kanye nomshado futhi kungenzeka babe nemibono esontekile ngocansi. Baphinde batholakale bengasondelene kakhulu nabalingani babo futhi banelisekile ngezimpilo zabo zothando. Okokugcina, abaningi bagcina sebeqola ophathina babo.”¹⁰

Sesikubonile kakade ukuthi i-porn iphinda ixhumeke kanjani ubuchopho. Olunye udaba oluyingozi emshadweni ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuholela ekwanelisekeni okuncane nesithakazelo kumuntu oshade naye. Abasebenzisi empeleni abasabeli kahle ekusebenzelaneni kocansi kwangempela kwempilo. Cabanga ngakho. Amadoda nabesifazane ku-porn babukeka bemangalisa, bebasha, bengcono kakhulu impilo yabo yonke. Phela, athuthukiswa ngokuhlinzwa futhi ashayelwe umoya ukuze aphelele. Omunye umbhali wabhala, “Namuhla, abesifazane abanqunu bangempela bayizithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile.”

Kwenzekani Endaweni Yomphefumulo Ngokusetshenziswa Kwezithombe Zocansi?

Ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuvula umnyango womphefumulo wethu nomoya wethu ekucindezelweni okungokomoya, ukudideka, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukulimala, ukulawula, kanye nokubuswa ububi. Abesifazane bazizwa bekhashelwe, benqatshiwe, behlazekile, bengakhangi, belahliwe, benesizungu, bengelutho, becasukile futhi behlazekile ngabayeni abasebenzisa i-porn. Bayaqhathwa impela. Abesifazane banomuzwa wokuthi abakwazi ukuncintisana nezithombe abayeni babo abazibukayo. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zinikeza umbono wokuthi owesifazane angenza noma yini ukuze ajabulise indoda, kodwa empeleni isimo sengqondo esinjalo simane nje siyiphupho. Lokhu kuletha ukungazethembi kuye futhi kungaqeda ukuzethemba kwakhe. Uzongabaza ukukhanga kwakhe kanye nokufaneleka kwakhe njengesithandwa. Ekugcineni angacabanga futhi akholwe ukuthi i-porn ibaluleke kakhulu kumyeni wakhe kunaye kuye, okungenzeka kube yiqiniso. Kuwukukhaphela ngokocansi kokugcina.

Nokho, amadoda ngokuvamile abheka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili njengephupho elingenangozi elingenangozi, ikhambi lokuqeda isizungu, noma ikhambi lokuba nomngane wobulili ongamnikezeli lokho akufisayo. Amadoda ayashesha ukucabangela futhi athethelele ukuziphatha kwawo, akubiza ngokuthi "ukuziphatha okuvamile" kowesilisa ovuswa amehlo. Baxhuma nabesifazane bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile "abahlale betholakala," futhi babanjwe isifiso sokuvuswa njalo. Abesifazane abavezwa ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile basebasha, bayathandeka, futhi balangazelela ukubajabulisa. Akadinwa noma acasuke futhi akalokothi abe nosuku olubi. Angaqhathanisa kanjani nenkosikazi nomama oye wabambana nomntwana usuku lonke, wasebenza ngaphansi kwesimo esishubile noma omane esebenzelana nabazali asebekhulile abamqeda amandla?

Lapho abantu belungiselela ubuchopho babo ukuthi buvuswe yilezi zinguqulo eziyihaba ngokuphelele zocansi, baba nezinkinga zangempela uma kufika isikhathi sokungena phakathi kwamashidi. Ngokuyisisekelo, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziwubulili bangempela njengoba Ugaxekile uwukudla inyama—ukulingisa okushibhile, okuyihaba. I-Porn ayigcini nje ngokunciphisa ikhono lamadoda lokuya ocansini oluhle, isusa ikhono labo lokuya ocansini nhlobo.

Izithombe zocansi zibulala uthando lwangempela ngoba zingamanga. Wonke amakhasi, wonke amasayithi, yonke imuvi ayimanga. Akulona iqiniso! Abasebenzisi be-Porn baba nokungabaza ngothando futhi abazinikele kangako kubalingani babo, nokho konke kusekelwe emangeni. Lawa kungase kube amanga anjengokuthi, “Ukubuka abantu beya ocansini nje kanti ucansi lungokwemvelo,” “Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyisiphazamiso esingenacala; akunangozi,” noma “Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zinikeza indlela ephephile yokufunda ngobulili.” Njengokungathi ekudukeni, abanye bangaphikisana ngokuthi i-porn ayilimazi muntu. Yeka amanga!

Inxeba lomphefumulo elingabonakali kangako lezithombe zobulili ezingcolile liwukuthi ubudlelwano obuningi buthintwa izinguquko ezenzeka engqondweni. Kungahlanekezela indlela abathengi ababona ngayo abantu, abangani babo, amalungu omndeni, abasebenza nabo, indodakazi noma indodana kamakhelwane, indodakazi yomuntu siqu, ngisho nabantu abangabazi emgwaqweni. Kanjani? I-Porn itshela abathengi ukuthi abantu bayizinto ezinenhloso eyodwa yokunikeza ukwaneliseka ngokocansi. Lokho kuhlobene ngokuqondile nokwenza ukuphila komuntu kube isamba sezitho zomzimba, ukulahla ukubaluleka kwakhe kwangempela nokubaluleka.

Ngeshwa, akugcini lapho. Umsebenzisi we-porn uba ozizondayo, futhi. Ukwehla kokulutheka kwezithombe ezingamanga, uthando lwamanga, nempilo engamanga.

Izimfihlo Ezimnyama Zezithombe Zocansi

Ezithombeni ezingcolile izihloko ziyabuswa, ziyashaywa, zihlukunyezwe ngokocansi, ziyalulazwa–futhi konke kusekelwe emvumweni nenkontileka. Kodwa kwabaningi, lokhu kuwubugqila bosuku lwanamuhla noma ukushushumbiswa kwabantu. Ukushushumbiswa kwabantu ukuthenga nokudayisa abantu, noma ukuhambisa abantu ukuze basetshenziselwe inzuzo. Isibalo esilinganiselwe sezigqila emhlabeni wonke siyizigidi ezingu-21 kuya kwezingu-32. Cishe u-22% walabo abashushumbiselwa izenzo zocansi. Kwethusa nakakhulu ukuthi isilinganiso seminyaka yezingane ezishushumbiswayo—futhi zaqoshwa—siyiminyaka engu-12.8.¹¹

Ngokuvamile izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokushushumbiswa ngocansi kuyinto eyodwa. Kubikwa ukuthi cishe ingxenye yezisulu zokushushumbiswa kocansi ithi yayisetshenziswa njengezihloko emafilimini ezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Laba bantu bavela emhlabeni wonke behehwa izipesheli ezingamanga ezinjengokuthi, “Woza eMelika ukuze uqale umsebenzi wakho wokumodela. Woza uqale impilo entsha.”

Kusho Ukuthini Lokhu Kithi?

Ngokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, usekela imboni yezocansi futhi uyisiza ukuba ikhule. Unesandla ekuxhashazweni ngokobulili kwezisulu ezibanjwe kuleli zwe elimnyama. Wengeza esonweni sokushushumbiswa kwabantu. Uthi “yebo” embonini engenisa izigidigidi zamarandi ezondla futhi idla abesilisa, abesifazane nezingane abangenacala futhi engase iholele ngisho nasekuthunjweni noma ekubulaweni kwabo. Ufunda ukubona nokuphatha abesifazane nabesilisa njengezinto zocansi. Ubhubhisa labo abavaleleke kulo mkhakha (namuhla ohlanganisa amantombazane amaningi kunanini ngaphambili), umshado wakho, umndeni wakho, kanye nawe. Useka ngisho ukuthunjwa kwezingane. Isikhungo Sikazwelonke Sezingane Ezilahlekile Nezixhashazwayo saqopha imibiko yezithombe eziyizigidi ezingama-69 zezinto ezihlukumeza izingane ngokocansi (ezinocansi lwezingane) ngo-2019.¹² Kunokuhlobana ngokusobala phakathi kwezingane ezilahlekile nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.

Yebo, uyathethelela futhi uyathethelela. Uzitshela ukuthi akukubi kangako. Ukubukeka okusheshayo nje; kuyisifiso semvelo . Abanye benu baze baguqule imfundiso yenkolo yakho ukuze uzitshele, noma uzame ukuzenza ngokwakho, ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile empeleni zilungile kuNkulunkulu.

Kodwa Angilutheka!

Ungase ube nemilayezo eya engqondweni yakho njengamanje ethi, "Konke kungaba yiqiniso, kodwa lowo muntu akumina."

Wazi kanjani ukuthi umlutha? Nazi ezinye iziqondiso.¹³

Uzizwa ulawulwa, ungalawuleki, futhi ungenamandla okumelana nesilingo sokusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile.
Une futhi ubhekene nokwenyuka kwezinga lokuvama nokusebenzisa izithombe zocansi.
Unamanga ngokusebenzisa kwakho.
Umatasatasa ngemicabango yocansi kanye nemicabango.
Uzitshela ukuthi isimo sakho asisibi njengabanye noma uzame ukubukela phansi ukusetshenziswa kwakho.
Uzame wehlulekile ukumisa ukusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo.
Ulahlekelwa isithakazelo ocansini futhi uthole izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zijabulisa kakhulu.
Ulahlekelwa ukukhangwa umlingani wakho wangempela.
Uqala ukwenza iphrojekthi futhi ufune empilweni yakho yocansi lokho okubuka kumasayithi ocansi.

Izimpendulo Ziyatholakala

Nakuba konke lokhu kungase kuzwakale kudumaza futhi kunengeka, siyazi ukuthi singakwazi ukugqashula ekubeni umlutha wezithombe ezingcolile. Kudingeka sinikeze ithemba futhi sitshele abantu ukuthi ikhona indlela yoshintsho nenkululeko. Asikho isono uJesu angasifelanga. Umoya wethu nezingqondo zethu zidinga ukuhlanzwa ngegazi uMsindisi wethu alichitha esiphambanweni. Inkululeko iyatholakala.

Sizochaza okwengeziwe ngendlela eya enkululekweni esihlokweni esilandelayo.

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