Indlela ebalulekile yokunqoba namuhla nakusasa iwukuthethelela
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Ingane encane ijwayelana kanjani nokuphila komkhaya okunjalo? Ngagijima. Ngabaleka ngebhayisikili lami, ngaya emfudlaneni, noma ngangena ehlathini. Ngagijima ngaya epulazini elingumakhelwane lapho ngangingasiza khona ukutshala utshani, ukuphakela izilwane, noma ukwenza noma yimuphi umsebenzi ababengivumela ukuba ngihlanganyele kuwo. Kodwa ubusuku baphakathi nesonto noma izimpelaviki engangingakwazi ukuphunyuka kwakungethusa kakhulu. Ukulala embhedeni wami ngiphapheme amahora amaningi izimbozo ziboshwe zaqina entanyeni yami, ngisho nalapho kushisa kwasehlobo, kwakuwukuphela kokuvikela engangikwazi kulokho okwakwenzeka ngaphandle kwekamelo lami lokulala.
Ukukhulela ekhaya elinobudlova basekhaya kuphazamisa futhi kuxazulule izici eziningi zobuntwana. Lezi zindlu zinesiphithiphithi futhi azibikezeli. Abanaso ukuphepha futhi baphuca izingane ikhono lokwakha ubuntu obunempilo. Aphenduka amakhaya abantu abazama ukuphila kuwo.
Ukuvakashela kabusha Ukuthethelela Ngokunye Ukubheka Inkululeko
Enye yezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuba umnqobi namuhla nasesikhathini esizayo iwukuthethelela. Ukukhohlwa okwakho okwedlule akunakwenzeka ngokobuntu, futhi lapho izehlakalo zazibuhlungu kakhulu, ayancipha amathuba okukhohlwa. Kodwa ukuthethelela kuyisinqumo ongasikhetha esikukhululayo kanye nalowo okuphathe kabi ukuze uphile ngokunqoba namuhla nasesikhathini esizayo. U-Isaya usikhumbuza ukuthi sikhohlwe okwedlule futhi singagxili ezintweni zangaphambili ukuze sibone ukuthi uNkulunkulu uzokwenzani namuhla nakusasa (Isaya 43:18-19). Akwenzeki ukubona kahle kusasa lapho i-lens yethu yesikhathi esedlule iguqubele.
Ukuthethelela kuthinta impilo yethu edlule, yamanje, neyesikhathi esizayo. Ake sihlole amavesi alandelayo maqondana nokuthi okwenzeka ngaphambili kusithinta kanjani isikhathi samanje nalokho okuzayo.
"Kodwa into eyodwa engiyenzayo (samanje): Ngikhohlwe okungemuva (esidlule) futhi ezama ukubheka okungaphambili (Ngokuzayo) ngiqhubekela emgomweni, ukuze ngizuze umklomelo uNkulunkulu angibizele wona ezulwini kuKristu Jesu.”samanje/ikusasa( Filipi 3:13-14 )
“Ngokuba uma nithethelela abantu lapho bonile;okwedlule/okwamanje) noYihlo osezulwini uyakunithethelela (samanje/ikusasa). Kepha uma ningathetheleli abantu izono zabo (okwedlule/okwamanje), uYihlo akayikuthethelela izono zenu” (samanje/ikusasa( Mathewu 6:14-15 )
Asikwazi ukumane sikhohlwe okwedlule noma senze sengathi akwenzekanga. Nokho asilokothi sihambe ngomunyu nokungathetheleli esikhathini samanje.
Ukuthethelela kunezinzuzo zokwelapha; yincwadi kadokotela ephuma ngqo ezulwini ukuze sikhululwe. Kodwa funa sikwenze kabi, ukuthethelela akusekelwe ngokuphelele esinqumweni sethu; kusekelwe kulokho uKristu akufezile. Wathwala izono zethu njengoba simbethela esiphambanweni. Ukuthethelela yilokho Asenzela kona: okwedlule, okwamanje futhi esizayo. Eminyakeni eyizinkulungwane ezimbili edlule, Wasithethelela!
UNkulunkulu uyasithola. Sithethelelwe nakuba sasifanele ukufa ngenxa yezono zethu. Akekho noyedwa kithi ongabalekela isahlulelo uma engase ajeziselwe ukona kwethu. Seqile ngokwanele ukuba sichithe ingunaphakade ngaphandle Kwakhe. Ukuthethelela kubonisa ukuthi ungubani uNkulunkulu. Njengoba uJesu elenga esiphambanweni, waba isibonelo sikaNkulunkulu-enyameni sokuthethelela.
Lapho singamthetheleli omunye, empeleni siyazigodla thina ngokwethu. Ukungaxoleli kubangela ingcindezi, ukungalali, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, ukudangala, umfutho wegazi ophakeme, izinkinga zokugaya ukudla, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okungajwayelekile, nokunye. Uhambo oluningi oluya kudokotela namuhla luwumphumela wokuwohloka kwemizwelo. Uma kuyekwa kungenakunakekelwa, lokhu ekugcineni kungaholela ekuwohlokeni komzimba. Umzimba wenyama uzama ukumunca imizwa engemihle edalwa ukungathetheleli. Ubuhlungu besikhathi esidlule ekugcineni buyothinta ingqondo yomuntu yamanje, intando nemizwelo, kusishiye nemicabango yekusasa elingenaso isiqiniseko.
Ukuthethelela Kweqiniso Kuletha Inkululeko
Ukuthethelela kweqiniso kusivumela ukuthi siphile ngokukhululeka namuhla ngoba asisabambeli ezintweni zesikhathi esidlule. Ukuthethelela akusona isenzo esingokwemvelo; kuyisenzo sikaNkulunkulu esingaphezu kwemvelo ezimpilweni zethu. Uwukuyeka ukuziphindiselela noma umcabango wokuziphindiselela. Ukuthethelela kwenzeka ngokushesha nangesikhathi eside. UJesu wasithethelela, nathi singabathethelela abanye. Kodwa ukukhululeka emizweni yobuhlungu, yokulahlekelwa, yentukuthelo, noma yokuphindisela kungase kuthathe isikhathi.
UHenri Nouwen wathi, “[Ukuthethelela] kungidinga ukuba ngidlule kuleyongxenye elimele yenhliziyo yami ezwa ubuhlungu futhi yoniwe futhi efuna ukuzilawula futhi ibeke izimo ezimbalwa phakathi kwami nalowo engicelwa ukuba ngimthethelele.”
Ukuthethelela kuyinto njengamanje esebenza phezu kwenani elakhokhwa ku okwedlule, ukuze sithole inkululeko namuhla nakithi Ngokuzayo.
Intethelelo ngidela ilungelo lami lokukuzwisa ubuhlungu ngokungizwisa ubuhlungu.
Intethelelo yeqiniso iwukukhulula umenzi wobubi ngokubeka uJesu lapho. Lowo muntu siyamkhulula kuJesu nalokho akwenza esiphambanweni ngenxa yami nawe. UJesu uyakhuleka,
“Baba wethu osezulwini… usithethelele amacala ethu njengoba nathi sibathethelela abanamacala kithi” (Mathewu 6:10, 12). Uphinde akhulume ngokuthethelela ngokuthi, “Ngokuba uma nithethelela abanye abantu bonile, noYihlo osezulwini uyakunithethelela nani.
Esesiphambanweni, uJesu wathi, “Baba, bathethelele” (Luka 23:34). EyabaseKolose 3:13 ithi, “Thethelelanani njengoba nje neNkosi yanithethelela.” Uma sithi asikwazi ukuthethelela futhi sihamba ekuthetheleleni, sisuke sithi inani elakhokhwa nguJesu lalinganele, alifinyeleli kulesi simo, noma ngalimala kakhulu ukuba ngithethelele. Singase sibe iziboshwa zokulimala kwethu kanye nentukuthelo yethu. Umbhali uLouis Smedes ucashunwe ethi, “Ukuthethelela kuwukukhulula isiboshwa bese uthola ukuthi isiboshwa nguwe.”
Kumelwe Sizithethelele
Mhlawumbe uke wabaxolela abanye kodwa ukuthola kunzima ukuzixolela. Umoya wenkolo uyokugcina ulwela ukuthethelelwa futhi ukutshele ukuthi awukufanele. Uma uke wazabalaza nalokhu, udinga ukuphenduka futhi ucele uNkulunkulu ukuthi akuthethelele ngokugodla inkululeko kuwe. Umqondo wenkolo uthi udinga ukwenza okwengeziwe, kodwa uNkulunkulu uthi iNdodana Yakhe ikwenzile konke. Uma uJesu ekwazi ukukuthethelela futhi akuthethelele, ungubani wena ukuba uzigodle intethelelo?
Ingabe uNkulunkulu ukhulumile nawe noma ubeke umunwe Wakhe endaweni ethile empilweni yakho ngalesi sihloko? Ingabe udinga ukuthethelela omunye ukoniwa kuwe? UMarku 11:25 uthi, “Lapho nimi nikhuleka, uma ninotho komunye nomunye, mthetheleleni, ukuze uYihlo osezulwini anithethelele izono zenu.” Ingabe udinga ukuzitholela intethelelo yeNkosi? Ingabe udinga ukuyeka into ongayenza esikhathini esidlule ukuze uzixolele?
UNkulunkulu akabhekile ukukukhanda ngamatshe—lowo umqondo weTestamente Elidala wokuphindisela. UJesu wathi kulowo owayebanjwe ephinga, “Angikulahli; hamba ushiye ukuphila kwakho esonweni” (Johane 8:11). AbaFarisi babelindele uJesu ukuba agwebe lona wesifazane ngokumkhanda ngamatshe futhi baze bazilungiselela ngokukhetha amatshe aphelele ababezowajikijela—kodwa kunalokho, uJesu wamthethelela.
Esiphambanweni uJesu akagcini ngokuthethelela futhi akunike amandla okuthethelela, ususa nehlazo lesono. Kusukela kuGenesise isahluko sesithathu, isono besihlazisa isintu. Kusukela esiphambanweni, kuze kufike ku-Adamu wesibili, isono nehlazo kuye kwasuswa. (Bheka eyoku-1 Korinte 15:45–48.)
Akusona isono sakho kuphela zithethelelwe, kodwa ngokwamaHeberu 8:12 ayisakhunjulwa. 1 Johane 1:8-10 wembula ukuthi asinasono, kodwa ngokuvuma izono uthembekile futhi ulungile ukuba asithethelele futhi asihlanze. Uma sithi asoni, simenza umqambimanga.
“Ukuthethelela akubususi ubuhlungu obudlule inkumbulo akuyona inkumbulo esusiwe. Kunalokho, ukuthethelela lokho esingenakukukhohlwa kudala indlela entsha yokukhumbula. Sishintsha inkumbulo yesikhathi esidlule sibe ithemba lekusasa lethu.” (Louis B. Smedes)
Izinyathelo Eziyisikhombisa Zokuthethelelwa Ezwini LikaNkulunkulu
Ungathola futhi unikeze intethelelo ngalezi zinyathelo eziyisikhombisa ezichazwe emBhalweni:
1. Khetha ukuthethelela
Ukuthethelela kuqala ngesinqumo esilula sokuthi, egameni likaJesu, sizolalela uNkulunkulu futhi sithethelele abasonileyo.
“Futhi yibani nomusa komunye nomunye, nihawukele, nithethelelane, njengoba nje noNkulunkulu wanithethelela ngoKristu” (Kwabase-Efesu 4:32).
UJesu wakwenza kwacaca kuMathewu 18:35 ukuthi lesi sinqumo sokuthethelela sisuka enhliziyweni. Kumelwe sithethelele ngenhliziyo yonke, singagodli noma sigcine inzondo.
Kodwa kuthiwani ngemizwa?
- Ukuthethelela akuqali ngemizwa, kodwa ngesinqumo. Awudingi ukulinda umuzwa olungile ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuthethelela. Ungakhetha ukuthethelela ngokusuka enhliziyweni, futhi uNkulunkulu uzokubona lokho. Veza lesi sinqumo. Ngokukholwa vuma ngokuzwakalayo, “Egameni likaJesu ngiyathethelela _____”.
- Qaphela! USathane angase azame ukubuyisela imizwa yokucasuka ekuphileni kwakho. (Bheka eyoku-1 Petru 5:8–10 .) Akudingekile ukuba uzizwe unecala ngokulingwa, kodwa kudingeka ubhekane naleyo mizwa. Njengoba usukwenzile kakade ukukhetha kwakho, udinga ukuma uqine ekubeni usuthethelele kakade ngegama likaJesu.
2. Vuma isono sakho kuNkulunkulu
Ukungathetheleli kuyisono kuNkulunkulu. Kuwukungalaleli umyalo wakhe wokuthethelela abanye njengoba nje noNkulunkulu esithethelele (Kwabase-Efesu 4:32). Ngaphezu kwalokho, uNkulunkulu ufisa ukuba bonke abantu bazi intethelelo; Wathumela iNdodana Yakhe, uJesu, ukuba ife ukuze lokho kwenzeke. Ukungathetheleli kungavimba abantu ekutholeni intethelelo kaNkulunkulu.
“Uma sizivuma izono zethu, uthembekile futhi ulungile ukuba asithethelele izono zethu futhi asihlanze kukho konke ukungalungi” (1 Johane 1:9 NKJV). Lokhu kuvuma kusho ukuqamba izono zethu ngamunye ngamunye.
“Ofihla izono zakhe ngeke aphumelele, kodwa noma ubani ozivumayo futhi azishiye uyothola umusa” (IzAga 28:13, NKJV).
Singaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi sithethelelwe? KungeZwi likaNkulunkulu! Uthi ngokusobala; “Ngokuba uma nithethelela abantu iziphambeko zabo, noYihlo osezulwini uyakunithethelela nani” (Mathewu 6:14 NKJV).
Nokho kwesinye isikhathi usangabaza ukuthi uxolelwe ngempela. Thola intethelelo kaNkulunkulu, wamukele njengoba nje ubungamukela isipho othile akuphe sona. Kungenzeka kanjani lokhu? Lalela lokho umphostoli uPawulu akusho:
“Manje singamanxusa kaKristu njengokungathi uNkulunkulu unxusa ngathi: siyanincenga esikhundleni sikaKristu, sithi: “Buyisanani noNkulunkulu, ngokuba lowo ongasazi isono wamenza isono ngenxa yethu, ukuze ngaye sibe-ngukulunga kukaNkulunkulu” (2 Korinte 5:20-21).
3. Cela intethelelo kulabo omonile
Sinomthwalo wemfanelo wokubuyisela ubuhlobo nanoma ubani onothile kithi. (Bheka uMathewu 5:23–24.) Yamukela isibopho ngokungalungile okwenzile futhi ucele intethelelo yalowo muntu. Uma ungazi ukuthi wone ngani, cela uNkulunkulu akubonise.
Vele ucele intethelelo. Ungangeni emininingwaneni engenza umonakalo omkhulu kunokuhle. Uma ungenakho ukudabuka kwangempela noma ukuphenduka lapho uye kulowo muntu, yima kuqala bese ucela uNkulunkulu ngomthandazo ukuba akubonise indlela omzwise ubuhlungu ngayo lowomuntu nokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwe kanjani. Vumela uNkulunkulu akunike ukuqonda okusha nokuzwela kulowo muntu.
Kuhle ukubheka kahle lowo muntu lapho umtshela lokho okwenzile futhi ubuze, "Uzongixolela?" Linda impendulo. Uma bethi, “Yebo, ngiyakuthethelela,” lokho kuyakubalethela ukukhululwa. (Kungakhathalekile ukuthi bathini, ngokuvuma isono sakho nokucela intethelelo, uye walalela. Manje ungasishiya lesi simo ezandleni zikaNkulunkulu.)
4. Cela uNkulunkulu abusise umuntu okuphathe kabi.
“Busisani abaniqalekisayo, nibakhulekele abanisebenzisa ngokudelela” (Luka 6:28 NKJV).
Njengoba wenza lokhu, landela isibonelo sikaJesu sokucela uNkulunkulu ukuba ambusise ngokumthethelela.
5. Yenza into enhle kumuntu okuphathe kabi. Babusise.
“Yenzani okuhle kwabanizondayo” (Luka 6:27 NKJV).
“Unganqotshwa okubi, kodwa nqoba okubi ngokuhle” (KwabaseRoma 12:21 NKJV).
6. Yamukela umuntu ngendlela ayiyo, ngisho noma engalungile.
Ungakuvikeli abakwenzayo, kodwa vikela nabo. Phatha lowo muntu ngesizotha, inhlonipho, uthando, nomusa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini.
“Ngakho yamukelanani, njengalokho noKristu wasamukela, kube yinkazimulo kaNkulunkulu” (KwabaseRoma 15:7 NKJV).
7. Bheka umuntu ngamehlo okholo.
Ungagxili ezindaweni zobuthakathaka, isono, noma ukucasuka. Kunalokho, gxila ekuboneni lowo muntu ngendlela uNkulunkulu afuna abe yikho. Kholwa ukuthi uNkulunkulu uzoyiphendula imithandazo yakho yalowo muntu (bona 1 Johane 5:14–15). Landela isibonelo sika-Abrahama, futhi ngokholo ubone izinto ezingesiyo indlela ezibukeka ngayo (bona kwabaseRoma 4:16–21). Qala ukucabanga futhi ukhulume kahle ngalowo muntu (bona 1 Korinte 13:7). Uthando “lukholelwa yizo zonke izinto, luthemba izinto zonke, lukhuthazelela zonke izinto.”
Khumbula, ukuthethelela akuzenzekeli. Kumelwe sigwinye ukuziqhenya kwethu, siqaphele ukuthi nathi siyakudinga ukuthethelelwa, bese simkhulula lowo esinomuzwa wokuthi usonile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenziwani, qaphela ukuthi isinyathelo sakho esigcwele ukholo sokuthethelela siyokukhulula ngesikhathi esifanayo ekulinyazweni, ebunzimeni obungase bube khona kanye nomonakalo ongokomzwelo, ongokomoya, nongokwenyama ongabangelwa ukungathetheleli.
Uzothola ukuphulukiswa kwakho njengoba uthethelela.
Siyabonga uNkulunkulu ngothando kanye nokuthethelela kweNdodana Yakhe, uJesu Kristu, umthandi wemiphefumulo yethu. Waqale wasithethelela ukuze sikwazi ukuthethelela abanye.
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